Me n this girl started hangin out. she had just broken up with her boyfriend 2-3 weeks before we started talking. things got pretty intimate pretty quick. we both have our morals so we never had sex, but we did mostly everything else. she ended things with the reasons that shes not completely over her ex, and she feels bad doing things with me when were not dating. of course on the day she said this i somewhat begged, but realized id look like an ass if i did too much. so i just stayed quiet and then that night we talked and i said i needed space. I read up on that "how to get her back for good" and im basically going with what he calls the "NO-Contact" plan. not contacting her until she calls me, and when she does act cool, calm, and collected. any other advice on how i can get her back?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Non-dating "break-up" advice
- Thread starter rckgh1992
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jeffthechef
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begged for what?
hm not contact might work...
but i'd consider you consider your mindset more
"how can i get her back"
one thing i learned is this..when you get to the point of having to devise plans for girls, asking how to get her back...get her number...get her..attract her..etc....
you've gone too far..
you notice how most, if not all, true master don juan's dont ask these questions? (in the hs forum cause adult dating is different)
because we all know one truth (at least i think we all agree on this)
"You have a 0.0000000001% chance of finding love/your soul mate in high school"
and perhaps another truth
"hs girls are meant for experience/learning/fun related to relationships/girls/and in some/most cases..sex...NOT love"
and perhaps another truth
"most hs girls aren't mature enough for love/relationships"
and maybe this final truth lol
"hs girls are unpredictable/uninterpretable...any effort directed towards reading/analyzing them/their actions is futile"
dont focus this much on one girl...spend your free time on YOUR LIFE..not her life in yours...work on girls when you're with them..that's when you actual gain something (experience)..all this thinking wont provide any benefits/memories
in 10+ years...(and 1+week/day)...you won't think back and remember " oh i remember that one time i thought about what to do with this girl" unless it was your big moment which led you to this site...cause i think we all remember that girl that made us find this site...you want to remember and tell your buddy "damn man, there was this one weekend in hs...i met a girl friday afternoon by the crosswalk..number closed her..the next day, we went to see a movie then walked on the beach cause she wanted to...then THAT NIGHT...i sneaked her into my room while my parents were sleeping...and we made sweet love to Marvin Gaye's "Midnight Love" album..we were in this position..then that position..but i loved it when i :kick: and went crazy like this pit bull i had as a kid"
something like that:woo:
:yes:
hm not contact might work...
but i'd consider you consider your mindset more
"how can i get her back"
one thing i learned is this..when you get to the point of having to devise plans for girls, asking how to get her back...get her number...get her..attract her..etc....
you've gone too far..
you notice how most, if not all, true master don juan's dont ask these questions? (in the hs forum cause adult dating is different)
because we all know one truth (at least i think we all agree on this)
"You have a 0.0000000001% chance of finding love/your soul mate in high school"
and perhaps another truth
"hs girls are meant for experience/learning/fun related to relationships/girls/and in some/most cases..sex...NOT love"
and perhaps another truth
"most hs girls aren't mature enough for love/relationships"
and maybe this final truth lol
"hs girls are unpredictable/uninterpretable...any effort directed towards reading/analyzing them/their actions is futile"
dont focus this much on one girl...spend your free time on YOUR LIFE..not her life in yours...work on girls when you're with them..that's when you actual gain something (experience)..all this thinking wont provide any benefits/memories
in 10+ years...(and 1+week/day)...you won't think back and remember " oh i remember that one time i thought about what to do with this girl" unless it was your big moment which led you to this site...cause i think we all remember that girl that made us find this site...you want to remember and tell your buddy "damn man, there was this one weekend in hs...i met a girl friday afternoon by the crosswalk..number closed her..the next day, we went to see a movie then walked on the beach cause she wanted to...then THAT NIGHT...i sneaked her into my room while my parents were sleeping...and we made sweet love to Marvin Gaye's "Midnight Love" album..we were in this position..then that position..but i loved it when i :kick: and went crazy like this pit bull i had as a kid"
something like that:woo:
:yes: mrjoe815
Don Juan
just step back and re evaluate
vivek59234
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Pull back... and wait if she calls you... If not than next... because she has not completely been over her ex yet...
Wait for 5-6 days and see if she calls... don't answer her calls often, once in a blue moon will work and don't be desperate when she calls... Just show her that you don't care...
Time might heal this or else 'NEXT' is the best option....
Wait for 5-6 days and see if she calls... don't answer her calls often, once in a blue moon will work and don't be desperate when she calls... Just show her that you don't care...
Time might heal this or else 'NEXT' is the best option....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.