Me n this girl started hangin out. she had just broken up with her boyfriend 2-3 weeks before we started talking. things got pretty intimate pretty quick. we both have our morals so we never had sex, but we did mostly everything else. she ended things with the reasons that shes not completely over her ex, and she feels bad doing things with me when were not dating. of course on the day she said this i somewhat begged, but realized id look like an ass if i did too much. so i just stayed quiet and then that night we talked and i said i needed space. I read up on that "how to get her back for good" and im basically going with what he calls the "NO-Contact" plan. not contacting her until she calls me, and when she does act cool, calm, and collected. any other advice on how i can get her back?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Non-dating "break-up" advice
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jeffthechef
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begged for what?
hm not contact might work...
but i'd consider you consider your mindset more
"how can i get her back"
one thing i learned is this..when you get to the point of having to devise plans for girls, asking how to get her back...get her number...get her..attract her..etc....
you've gone too far..
you notice how most, if not all, true master don juan's dont ask these questions? (in the hs forum cause adult dating is different)
because we all know one truth (at least i think we all agree on this)
"You have a 0.0000000001% chance of finding love/your soul mate in high school"
and perhaps another truth
"hs girls are meant for experience/learning/fun related to relationships/girls/and in some/most cases..sex...NOT love"
and perhaps another truth
"most hs girls aren't mature enough for love/relationships"
and maybe this final truth lol
"hs girls are unpredictable/uninterpretable...any effort directed towards reading/analyzing them/their actions is futile"
dont focus this much on one girl...spend your free time on YOUR LIFE..not her life in yours...work on girls when you're with them..that's when you actual gain something (experience)..all this thinking wont provide any benefits/memories
in 10+ years...(and 1+week/day)...you won't think back and remember " oh i remember that one time i thought about what to do with this girl" unless it was your big moment which led you to this site...cause i think we all remember that girl that made us find this site...you want to remember and tell your buddy "damn man, there was this one weekend in hs...i met a girl friday afternoon by the crosswalk..number closed her..the next day, we went to see a movie then walked on the beach cause she wanted to...then THAT NIGHT...i sneaked her into my room while my parents were sleeping...and we made sweet love to Marvin Gaye's "Midnight Love" album..we were in this position..then that position..but i loved it when i :kick: and went crazy like this pit bull i had as a kid"
something like that:woo:
:yes:
hm not contact might work...
but i'd consider you consider your mindset more
"how can i get her back"
one thing i learned is this..when you get to the point of having to devise plans for girls, asking how to get her back...get her number...get her..attract her..etc....
you've gone too far..
you notice how most, if not all, true master don juan's dont ask these questions? (in the hs forum cause adult dating is different)
because we all know one truth (at least i think we all agree on this)
"You have a 0.0000000001% chance of finding love/your soul mate in high school"
and perhaps another truth
"hs girls are meant for experience/learning/fun related to relationships/girls/and in some/most cases..sex...NOT love"
and perhaps another truth
"most hs girls aren't mature enough for love/relationships"
and maybe this final truth lol
"hs girls are unpredictable/uninterpretable...any effort directed towards reading/analyzing them/their actions is futile"
dont focus this much on one girl...spend your free time on YOUR LIFE..not her life in yours...work on girls when you're with them..that's when you actual gain something (experience)..all this thinking wont provide any benefits/memories
in 10+ years...(and 1+week/day)...you won't think back and remember " oh i remember that one time i thought about what to do with this girl" unless it was your big moment which led you to this site...cause i think we all remember that girl that made us find this site...you want to remember and tell your buddy "damn man, there was this one weekend in hs...i met a girl friday afternoon by the crosswalk..number closed her..the next day, we went to see a movie then walked on the beach cause she wanted to...then THAT NIGHT...i sneaked her into my room while my parents were sleeping...and we made sweet love to Marvin Gaye's "Midnight Love" album..we were in this position..then that position..but i loved it when i :kick: and went crazy like this pit bull i had as a kid"
something like that:woo:
:yes: mrjoe815
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just step back and re evaluate
vivek59234
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Pull back... and wait if she calls you... If not than next... because she has not completely been over her ex yet...
Wait for 5-6 days and see if she calls... don't answer her calls often, once in a blue moon will work and don't be desperate when she calls... Just show her that you don't care...
Time might heal this or else 'NEXT' is the best option....
Wait for 5-6 days and see if she calls... don't answer her calls often, once in a blue moon will work and don't be desperate when she calls... Just show her that you don't care...
Time might heal this or else 'NEXT' is the best option....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.