Non Approachable.

[MidnightResistance]

So I'm in this bar last night.
The atmosphere in the bar seems pretty friendly. Everyone around me is having a good time and a laugh.
I'm out playing the field on my own.

I drink half my pint at the bar, then have a quick glance about the room and spot a couple of cute chicks a little younger than me sitting at a table giggling. They're dolled up. Probably going out after the bar.
So I stroll on over, confidently. These chicks are a little below what I'd normally go for, so I thought this would be good to get in the swing of things.

"Hi girls, going anywhere good?" *smiles*
"Fvck off."

So that one was a non starter....or maybe I chose to visit the wrong town? I've never been to this town before.

So I finish my drink and go outside to find another place to drink in and come across a group of 5 girls in the street, all dolled up to go out. They've obviously been having a few drinks...so inhibitions should be lowered.

"Hi girls, going anywhere good?" *smiles*
"Yeah, we're going to (insert club name)" One replies smiling.
"Mind if I tag along?"
"Fvck off." The other 4 say in unision.
"In that case I'll just take your phone number." I smile and look at the girl who was friendly.
"I have a boyfriend."
"If you don't tell him, I won't." I smile and laugh.
They walk off.

Did I do anything wrong here or did I just walk into the wrong town?
Note: I was not dressed up to get into a club.

 

[RIDER]

Wow I'm glad I dont live in a town with potty-mouthed *****es like that

 

[MidnightResistance]

It does make me wonder if I went to the wrong town?

 

[spider_007]

I would have taken the hint when they said "fvck off". I also would have told them; "relax biches, I didn't ask you to suck my prick, I asked you to show me where the club was. Do you kiss your mother with that mouth too." And then I would have turned around and walked away.

If 3 chicks out of 4 tell you strait up to "fvck off" It doesn't metter if the fourth is totally in love with you, she will still reject you. GROUP DYNOMICS.

 

[isotope]

yeah it's hard to hit on groups of girls because if even ONE of them is in a bad mood or doesnt like you, she can taint the whole group against you. Plus it looks like their bytch shields were up in full power.


and you didnt do anything wrong. Remember, its a numbers game. you only hit on 2 groups. you've got to hit on 20 and then hope for maybe 4 or 5 good interactions.

you cant expect every single girl you go up to to get on her knees for you.

 

[Hunchback]

Jus' brush it off and move on to the next town. Respect to you for not letting it bother you.

Worst reply I ever got was:

"Hey, you havin' a good night?"
"I was till you came and talked to me."

 

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

No you didn't do an awful lot wrong really.
You're openers fine so long as you're saying it with confidence and EC.
Only things I would say: saying 'mind if i tag along?' comes across as weak, especially when you're by yourself.
And yeh, i'd never pursue further a girl in a group that had been that rude either.
Plus I always think its better to look for a similar sized group of girls. Like if you're with a mate, 2 girls is ideal so there's one each with no c0ckblocking. 5 girls by yourself is very tough.
But nontheless, you did just come across the wrong women unfortunately. Don't let that discourage you from approaching again.

 

[MidnightResistance]

Coming across a group of the same size (ie: 1) was not an option here.

Even when saying "Mind if I tag along?" I was very confident, making eye contact, smiling.
All the good stuff.
I seemed to have stumbled into the town of MAN HATE.
Or maybe a Wednesday night is a bad night for sarging?

What should I have said instead of "Mind if I tag along" ?

Maybe: "Hey me too. Why don't you come with me?"
Although that sounds worse some how.

"Mind if I tag along?" rolls off the tongue better and sounds more...I dunno...'televised' or something.
If they like they'd say yes. If they didn't, they'd say no...or fvck off in this case.
So long as you say it with confidence it's not a problem.


I need a wingman.
Any of you guys in or around London?
(I'm not asking on the wingman forum...all the potential wingmen there seem to bvgger off to the LSS)

 

[Sweetcheeks]

Good for you, but...

Although you deserve a LOT of credit for having the nerve to approach, I think that you left matters unfinished.

In some cases, bad behavior of this nature is a test to determine if you have the balls to STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.

I suggest that you REFUSE to accept bad behavior. CALL THEM on their rudeness. Honestly, does approaching them in a friendly and confident manner really merit such a degree of CRASS RUDENESS.

They were downright offensive. Don't get angry, but get SERIOUS. For example, you could say spmething like:

"EXCUSE ME? WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE, to talk to ANYBODY like that? I don't know if you were abused as children or something, but where I come from, politeness is not optional. I really PITY YOU. Why don't you guys learn to HAVE SOME CLASS for a change?"

Demand an apology. Then shake your head at them and TURN YOUR BACK TO THEM to leave.

 

[MidnightResistance]

1) I can't argue with the whole 'who do you think you are' approach. This is how women argue.

2) Calling a chick a B1TCH (if she doesn't shut up) and walking away, or just walking away is the best course of action. I don't want to get myself barred from the bar I went to and these chicks are not worth my time.

3) I have intention of further damaging my confidence over a chick who is rude to me.

4) If a chick is ever that rude to you, she's damaged goods. Messed up in the head, a man hater or whatever. Best avoided at all costs. Besides, there are plenty more chicks out there.