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If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

NoFap: Full month of June. You in!?

wifehunter

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Oops!!!:p

 

Red Legg

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lol..... ok....... I promise to only fvck my hot girlfriend all month...she wears me out,and she is on her way now to spend all weekend with me...
 

Reykhel

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What's the overall purpose?

are you compulsively masturbating as a buffer to approaching women?

All addictions and compulsive behaviors stem from avoidance. Take right action to move your life and your body and mind in the
direction that you want it to go....onwards.

Make decisions and take actions. It's better than trying not to do something.....that can drive a man crazy and make whatever you're
trying to avoid seem like......forbidden fruit. You give it more value than has.

It's always better to cultivate the opposite of what you wish to "avoid" (instead of trying to avoid what you're trying to avoid)

You want to quit being angry? Cultivate empathy (understanding) instead of trying to stop being angry....
You want to quit being fat? Cultivate fitness and health.....instead of trying not to be a fat cvnt...
You want to quit being impatient? Cultivate patience......instead of trying not to be impatient.......

What are you avoiding? Why is your life not busy enough? Why are you not sexually satisfied? Get busy cultivating the opposite and you won't ever have to count days like this. It's no way to live.
 

resilient

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What's the overall purpose?
For me it's about motivation. I don't feel charged to take on my goals if I let the act of masturbation pacify me. With NoFap, I feel more aggressively charged to handle tasks that need to be handled. I'm more focused and driven. I also generally feel happier and less depressed. I enjoy interacting with others and feel less likely to isolate myself. I feel more motivated to laugh and socialize with others. I'm less shy around new people.

Semi Field Report...
I had a crappy interaction today with being 5 days since starting this with a skinny chick at the beach my age for a get together of mostly singles. I asked a lot of questions and it felt like I was throwing spaghetti on the wall to see what stuck or how I could relate to her. She just gave me awkward glances or short answers. We were not vibing, and her body language seemed off. She was rocking from side to side with her hips and hands in pockets, but not smiling. I think she was most likely bored. I brought out my phone at one point as a visual aid to DHV a cool adventure I did last weekend with a hike to a waterfall, but ya... felt like I was grasping at straws. I wondered after the interaction was over if I would have handled it with less anxiety and in a more chill manner at day30 instead of day5, you know? I know for sure that I talked faster or in a rushed speech, so that most likely gave away that I was nervous.
 
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AlexKaiser

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What's the overall purpose?

are you compulsively masturbating as a buffer to approaching women?

All addictions and compulsive behaviors stem from avoidance. Take right action to move your life and your body and mind in the
direction that you want it to go....onwards.

Make decisions and take actions. It's better than trying not to do something.....that can drive a man crazy and make whatever you're
trying to avoid seem like......forbidden fruit. You give it more value than has.

It's always better to cultivate the opposite of what you wish to "avoid" (instead of trying to avoid what you're trying to avoid)

You want to quit being angry? Cultivate empathy (understanding) instead of trying to stop being angry....
You want to quit being fat? Cultivate fitness and health.....instead of trying not to be a fat cvnt...
You want to quit being impatient? Cultivate patience......instead of trying not to be impatient.......

What are you avoiding? Why is your life not busy enough? Why are you not sexually satisfied? Get busy cultivating the opposite and you won't ever have to count days like this. It's no way to live.
I want to quit being jealous of people with things that I don't and brewing about it all day. What would I cultivate for that?
 

resilient

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day6
Felt more edgier than normal at work for a typical Monday, so I'm doing some deep breathing / meditation techniques to mellow out before bed now...



“The Way of the Samurai is found in death. Meditation on inevitable death should be performed daily.” Ghost Dog
 
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ChristopherColumbus

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The reason most men fap is to escape from themselves.
Existence weighs too heavily on them in their down time.
It's like something is not quiet right,
And instead of resolving this disquiet, by facing it,
And building a resilience and strength within themselves,
They run from it like a baby to a sugar-coated dummy.
 

Milano

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Im in
 

MillionBillionaire

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I found that fapping to nudity is not as bad as fapping to hardcore porn. I just don't get that depressed feeling when I fap to nudity alone.

There is nothing wrong with fapping to nudity once a week. Try that instead of the extreme "NO FAP FOREVARR!" Mentality. As soon as you give in on day 31 you go right back to where you were watching girls get pounded messing up your dopamine receptors again.

For real though, I don't mean to hijack this thread but try fapping to nudity once a week.


And on a side note I'm watching youtube videos on how to be better at writting so please tell me if my grammar is crap or not... thanks.
 

ChristopherColumbus

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For that very tickling and sting that is found in certain pleasures and seems to raise us above simple health and absence of pain, that active, stirring, and somehow or other burning and biting voluptuousness, even that itself points only to freedom from pain as its goal. The appetite that sweeps us away into intercourse with women seeks only to drive out the pain that ardent and furious desire brings us, and asks us only to assuage it and to be set at rest and exempted from this fever. And so for the rest.
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Neither is pain always something for him to flee, nor pleasure something for him to pursue.

Michel De Montaigne, Apology for Raymond Sebond
 
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