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I've done this before with good success. The idea is simple. I don't masturbate and direct the energy to other facets of my life. Any urges to go out and randomly smash girls simply to satisfy myself are seen as one step above masturbating and are treated the same. The energy is consciously focused and redirected to things like working out, fixing things around the house, travelling, creating passive income, and building personal/social projects to hone skills and enrich my social circle.

This is how I literally rewire my brain to pursue self improvement over women while creating immense value. With no dopamine and sexual relief from fapping I'm left to look at my life through more objective eyes. I begin to relish the feelings of being horny and live in them constantly. I start to see that I've used sex and fapping as an escape in my past. The act of working on myself like this creates a strong feeling of control and dominance. But rather than use it on women I use it to conquer my life.

The last time I did this I went for about 210 days and completely changed my life. I became the most fit I've ever been, earned the most money, travelled the most, and talked to more people/did more things than any other 210 day period of my life. These were also some of the hardest days of my life that tested me completely. The awesome part is I learned to love the challenge and grind. I say the streak ended then because I became so happy with my life that I went out and a solid 9 was practically staring at my mouth waiting for my next words like they were the word of god. She did anything I wanted and the sex was so satisfying and kinky that I ended up relaxing and one by one easing up on my pursuits.

Fast forward 2 years of daily sex(basically on demand) and i relaxed too long, became weak again, and broke it off for my own sanity. And it hurt like a beach because I became so weak.

This time around I'm going to be pickier with the girl I let in and I'm going to focus on never stopping my pursuits. I'm also going to ration the sex to her or whoever I pick, more for myself than her. I'm going to maintain that dominance indefinitely until I own her soul like before, but this time I won't relax until I'm dead.

So far I'm 9 days in. Strength is increasing and I'm retraining the ability to direct mindless arousal once again. I can feel it stabilizing like never before but I think it'll be 3 months before I see serious results. I'll update this thread once a month. Feel free to ask any questions.
 

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Highly commendable. Many are talking about self-improvement, and this is the one obvious area to start with. Unfortunately if it has been a long term habit and turned into an addiction it will also be one of the most difficult.

Addictions can be over-come though with determined resolve and a lot of effort. It really is about taking back control of your life. Most men vent and fume about women today because they are at the whim of them. They are at the whim of them because their libido is bloated and over-inflated, and this is largely due to the habitual consumption of pornography.

This is really the elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about. Such auto-erotic behavior has become normalized just as the briefest smashing of body parts has.
 
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I believe no fapping is precious to increase violence and determination, I notice aggressivity increasing and fear disappearing once the fapping is no more than once a month.

Sometime it needs some release otherwise it really goes beyond control, funny thing is that beyond a certain point libido get stable but aggressivity keeps growing.

I now understand why boxers and other fighters quit sex and masturbation the weeks before a match.
 

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I believe no fapping is precious to increase violence and determination, I notice aggressivity increasing and fear disappearing once the fapping is no more than once a month.

Sometime it needs some release otherwise it really goes beyond control, funny thing is that beyond a certain point libido get stable but aggressivity keeps growing.

I now understand why boxers and other fighters quit sex and masturbation the weeks before a match.
I started freaking out when the libido started to reduce but you're right it just kind of goes dormant but the aggression is still there. I'm more hardcore and think even once a month is taking the easy way out. I'd rather master it completely and take my time picking a nice complimentary submissive woman. It might be a bad idea to never do it but I'll experiment down the line if it becomes a problem.
 

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I will say as a guy not jerking off defiantly gets your motivation up to talk to women more and ups your sex drive as well to talk to more women. Also I notice I fall asleep after at night if I don't jerk and wake up earlier and more refreshed.
 

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Hey Spaz, you're trolling. Nofap is obviously not directed at those currently in a relationship~
 

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Hey Spaz, you're trolling. Nofap is obviously not directed at those currently in a relationship~
Heh it's obvious he's trolling. Guys in relationships can definitely do it. But they either need to make sure they're getting off with their girls for the right reasons or they need to go hard mode and deny their girls temporarily. I bet spaz is too chicken to do that though ;)
 

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Heh it's obvious he's trolling. Guys in relationships can definitely do it. But they either need to make sure they're getting off with their girls for the right reasons or they need to go hard mode and deny their girls temporarily. I bet spaz is too chicken to do that though ;)
Haha

Too bad my one eyed demon has a mind of its own.

Even in deep slumber, the demon would autonomously awaken and unfortunately for me, my girl started to caressing him with her fingers, then her mouth and finally...
 

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This sounds like a challenge for some good old fashion debate.

If so I'll accept by starting off 1st.

Do you guys know the main reason on why you came up with this faplessness religion?

I could tell you all why but I rather hear it from everyone 1st.

That includes you too @EyeOnThePrize
 

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This sounds like a challenge for some good old fashion debate.

If so I'll accept by starting off 1st.

Do you guys know the main reason on why you came up with this faplessness religion?

I could tell you all why but I rather hear it from everyone 1st.

That includes you too @EyeOnThePrize
Self-pleasuring, auto-eroticism, wanking, call it what you want, is not the mark of excellence. Why defend degeneracy when you otherwise trumpet excellence and manliness? let me guess, you have a problem in this department... lol
 

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Self-pleasuring, auto-eroticism, wanking, call it what you want, is not the mark of excellence. Why defend degeneracy when you otherwise trumpet excellence and manliness? let me guess, you have a problem in this department... lol
Nay brother.

My question is more towards looking inward on why a man decides to go faplessness.

What's the main driver toward it?
 

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There are cultural ramifications to all of this also. Unless people have some semblance of control over themselves [their passions] then how are they to enter into loyal and monogamous relationships?
 
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