"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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NoFap 90 days

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Okay, I've decided to do 90 days of nofap. The idea is that the extra desire to f*** will be a help and will help me approach the "sexual state".

I will do my best to log my recovery, as fapping makes one into an AFC when its done too often, I think 90 days will help me to grow as a man, and be a self-realized man.

If anyone wishes to comment then go for it.

On day 2 up to now, it has been pretty easy, I look forward to more to come.

Still not "there" right now when it comes to women, I think a couple of weeks and I'll approach state.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You better create an habit of touching yourself a lot less instead of a 90 days wait before you can go mad on your d!ck again.

My regime is 1 ejaculation/month. I can masturbate but not ejaculate.
Forever.

Masturbating is not really the problem. You empty yourself of your energy by ejaculating.
So don't.

The extra desire to **** last for about 7 days.
Then you become a lot less driven by it but still attentive to your sexual desire.

Not sure you will grow as a self-realized man doing that though. You better read some books for that purpose.
 

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You better create an habit of touching yourself a lot less instead of a 90 days wait before you can go mad on your d!ck again.

My regime is 1 ejaculation/month. I can masturbate but not ejaculate.
Forever.

Masturbating is not really the problem. You empty yourself of your energy by ejaculating.
So don't.

The extra desire to **** last for about 7 days.
Then you become a lot less driven by it but still attentive to your sexual desire.

Not sure you will grow as a self-realized man doing that though. You better read some books for that purpose.
Thanks, I intend to do some reading, some video watching, some audio books as well. As well as getting some practice in. I've done nofap before and think I did around 3 weeks, this was last year. I noticed a significantly higher interest from women, also women are interested now so I'm going to see what not fapping adds to that.
 

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I have a question:
I believe after you cvm, you make your body create more testosterone,
SO if you don´t ejaculate you are sending your body the message that you don´t need extra testosterone, is this correct?
 

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I have a question:
I believe after you cvm, you make your body create more testosterone,
SO if you don´t ejaculate you are sending your body the message that you don´t need extra testosterone, is this correct?
No, the body wants to cvm, thus it creates more testosterone in order to make you more attractive to potential females, and to give you more "oomph" to go out there and get them
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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There's plenty of info out there on this. Your testosterone levels peak from around days 7 through 10 - this is when you will find the sexual state you're seeking - and then it levels off. Many people claim to lose a lot of their desire for coitus after this initial surge.

So ideally, you should jack off, without the use of porn, every week or so. Your body may be different, so experiment and see what works for you.

90 days is probably overkill.
 

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It's not all about testosterone peaking though... It's about removing a "reward system" that rewards poor performance. If you remove this "reward system" your brain will find a way to make the real thing happen. If you continue using this "reward system" you will feel pitiful and miserable and sexless. It's a self defeating proposition to perform it. Let a female handle your junk.
 

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There's plenty of info out there on this. Your testosterone levels peak from around days 7 through 10 - this is when you will find the sexual state you're seeking - and then it levels off. Many people claim to lose a lot of their desire for coitus after this initial surge.
This makes sense to me. There is probably an initial surge of sexual energy from abstaining from "fapping". If you don't use this energy quickly to get yourself laid, then you enter "If you don't use it, you lose it" mode.
 

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Well this is what nofap experimentation is all about, Masturbation isn't 100% natural, its a replacement for sex, but we've been breeding for thousands of years. Theres more to life than sex, what you do is refocus that sexual energy, you don't lose it - in a physics way - energy cannot be created or destroyed - the energy goes elsewhere.

If I do lose the desire to have sex, I certainly am not going to become a eunuch, I will just do other things, I'm sure that the desire will return.
 

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I don't agree in your statement that isn't 100% natural. I mean, is not an advancement in technology, you just wank your meat. however I've always guessed if orgasm is common to all species or jus a certain ones.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Well this is what nofap experimentation is all about, Masturbation isn't 100% natural, its a replacement for sex, but we've been breeding for thousands of years. Theres more to life than sex, what you do is refocus that sexual energy, you don't lose it - in a physics way - energy cannot be created or destroyed - the energy goes elsewhere.

If I do lose the desire to have sex, I certainly am not going to become a eunuch, I will just do other things, I'm sure that the desire will return.
Personally I wouldn't take a chance that it will return, it's better to maintain it and keep it at a high level.
 

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I think it's unhealthy not to cvm for that long. Maybe once every 1 to 1.5 weeks is healthy. I think it's about moderation not abstinence. But do what you like.
 

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Day 4, mild tempations, nothing I can't handle.

Working on conquering fear, not doing too badly. Using these 90 days for growth, and growing I am.
Watched a movie, enjoying myself on my day off from work.

To answer the recent posters, ejaculating is indeed natural, but its not natural to sit in ones room fapping every day, if I wanna cvm I should be seeking a hole for the goal.
 

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Day 4, mild tempations, nothing I can't handle.

Working on conquering fear, not doing too badly. Using these 90 days for growth, and growing I am.
Watched a movie, enjoying myself on my day off from work.

To answer the recent posters, ejaculating is indeed natural, but its not natural to sit in ones room fapping every day, if I wanna cvm I should be seeking a hole for the goal.
And if you know this every minute of every day your mind will manifest it. There will be someone to suit the purpose. I agree with srayarc, that perhaps going a full 90 days isn't "necessary", but a 90 day period will allow you to reset your habits. If you don't have a female I'd say blowing a load every 1-2 weeks would not be excessive, but there is no godly reason on earth why any of us SHOULDN'T have a babe to lay down with unless you are in prison or something.
 

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Oh for Pete's sake, fap. It'll do you good an take your mind of not fapping.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oh for Pete's sake, fap. It'll do you good an take your mind of not fapping.
The entire point of not fapping was it creates a destructive habit, and is an outlet for someones sexual desire. We want to take the outlet and reward system away so a sosuave member is forced to do it the right way and get some kind of female to be sexual with.

Otherwise it will be 2 years up the road, he's been a hermit and fapping to his "gf" in porn on the computer at night before going to bed. Never having the impetus to get the real thing.
 

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Studies have shown porn can be damaging. I think "fapping" and porn are two different subjects, although guys tend to mix the two, visual creatures that we are. I hesitate to call ANYTHING unnatural, but I might say that masturbation is natural, porn is not. Although show a caveman a picture of a hot chick, and yeah he would probably fap to it lol, so it's probably wrong to say it's not natural.

Porn aside, you hear about guys who masturbate seven times a day, so yeah some people obviously take it too far.
 

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Exactly, the problem is about moderation. Once a month is moderation, at least for me.
Obviously, for people used to fap thrice a day, it's going to be pretty unnatural.

After months of doing that regime, well, I fapped only once, and had sex a lot with a "real" woman.
Between sex, I rarely feel the urge to fap. When I see my plate, it's all for her, figuratively and literally speaking.
 

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Exactly, the problem is about moderation. Once a month is moderation, at least for me.
Obviously, for people used to fap thrice a day, it's going to be pretty unnatural.

After months of doing that regime, well, I fapped only once, and had sex a lot with a "real" woman.
Between sex, I rarely feel the urge to fap. When I see my plate, it's all for her, figuratively and literally speaking.
Sounds like your "plate" is "stacked" :) A big juicey plate full of food!
 

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There's plenty of info out there on this. Your testosterone levels peak from around days 7 through 10 - this is when you will find the sexual state you're seeking - and then it levels off. Many people claim to lose a lot of their desire for coitus after this initial surge.

So ideally, you should jack off, without the use of porn, every week or so. Your body may be different, so experiment and see what works for you.

90 days is probably overkill.
This. There have been real, controlled studies done on this. Anything beyond a week is overkill as far as testosterone is concerned; but you may see some mental benefits like more motivation, confidence, etc.

Longest I ever did was over 4 months. I did have sex about 2 months in, and it was weird, my body almost forgot how to ejaculate. It took a few times before I could produce the volume I used to with a new girl.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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