"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No texting for 5 days, but a second date set. She's a super slow texter

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BeExcellent said:
Advice from the old lady:

I think 5 days no contact does get a little long in the tooth, especially if she is attractive (she will have other options hanging round).

When a woman likes a man she does hope to hear from him. Not too much...but a little. Contact in and of itself is not bad just don't get caught up in a long exchange.

If you are in US it's Thanksgiving week right? Easy. Sometime on Thursday you send:

"Happy Turkey! See you tomorrow"

And that's it. That way you acknowledge her, you acknowledge the date and you get points for reaching out on the holiday. Simple.
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This advice is just wrong.

Five days no contact is fine. An interested woman will keep the date. She has to keep the date. She has high interest.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just stop texting. Texting itself is eager. Men don't text. Women should be texting you.

Use the phone to be decisive and make a date. After that, ghost until you see her. No confirming dates. Just show up.

Confirming dates is weak.
 
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