"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No such thing as confidence

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Confidence is the lack of insecurity. So instead of working on confidence people should work on eliminating their insecurities. You might be thinking to yourself duh! thats obvious. So why do people argue with my threads Believing in yourself will not get you laid.

Believing in yourself does nothing. Its by eliminating your insecurities that will make you confident and not by believing in rourself.

Still don't get it?...

What part of confidence is the lack of insecurities do you guys not understand. You eliminate an insecurity by destroying it not by painting over it with "self confidence". You can't cover up insecurities to become confident. You uproot your insecurities to become confident.

AFC's are pack with insecurities. Its not that they are lacking but they are full of insecurities that is greater than than their confidence. Confidence is none existent. If you eliminate the insecurities you become confident. Confidence is not something you can obtain like how you obtain a car. You already have confidence just that your insecurities are covering it.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mm stop making stupid posts about confidence and belief not existing.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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people argue because you don't know how to communicate what you're trying to say. if you knew how to articulate you'd find everyone would agree with you because it's just some basic common sense sht

instead you type stuff like this

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Action is the command of the soul hence you need a soul to command action.
 

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can we set up a special forum where mentally retarded DJs can discuss the issues that effect them? Like how to mack h0es on the short bus, or whether its kosher to neg hit about a girl's missing chromosome? Seriously, this is badly needed.
 

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enthusiast said:
Confidence is the lack of insecurity. So instead of working on confidence people should work on eliminating there insecurities. You might be thinking to yourself duh! thats obvious. So why do people argue with my thread Believing in yourself will not get you laid.

Its not by believing in yourself that will get you laid because believing in yourself does nothing. Its by eliminating our insecurities that will make us confident and not by believing in ourselves.
Of course confident exists, we base many decisions on confidence and in confidence. If the concept exists, then you must understand why so much confidence is put in the existence of such. You can eliminate your securities so you will have more confidence which is the opposite of insecurites. You can believe in yourself and have more confidence, so now you are not insecure about yourself. There you have it. Agreed?
 

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What part of confidence is the lack of insecurities do you guys not understand. You eliminate an insecurity by destroying it not by painting over it with "self confidence". Its like mold you can't just paint over it you gotta kill it. If you paint over it it will just come back.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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confidence is the lack of insecurities
Umm.. is English your second language?

con·fi·dence
1 a: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances <had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed> <met the risk with brash confidence> b: faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way <have confidence in a leader>
2: the quality or state of being certain : certitude <they had every confidence of success>
See that? Faith and BELIEF.. no definition anywhere describes it as a complete lack of insecurity.
 

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Dude, you are lame. Find a new career because this just isn't your line of work.

Nobody cares that you don't believe in yourself.

How many times do you have to get banned before you realize that your advice is not wanted on sosuave?
 

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There's no such thing as AFCs. AFC's just lack [fill in the blank]. So instead of building up [fill in the blank], people should work on eliminating AFCs. You might be thinking to yourself duh! thats obvious. So I suggest that the next time you come across a AFC just fling him off a cliff on a whim. Don't worry about any repercussions, there will be people who will justify your actions. :up:
 

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AFCs dont have souls. I peg them with my .22 in my backyard.

I also hear they are a delicacy in China..except they call them chumplings
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
There's no such thing as AFCs. AFC's just lack [fill in the blank]. So instead of building up [fill in the blank], people should work on eliminating AFCs. You might be thinking to yourself duh! thats obvious. So I suggest that the next time you come across a AFC just fling him off a cliff on a whim. Don't worry about any repercussions, there will be people who will justify your actions. :up:

AFC's are pack with insecurities. Its not that they are lacking but they are full of insecurities that is greater than than their confidence. Confidence is none existent. If you eliminate the insecurities you become confident. Confidence is not something you can obtain like how you obtain a car. You already have confidence just that your insecurities are covering it.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Señor Fingers said:
AFCs dont have souls. I peg them with my .22 in my backyard.

I also hear they are a delicacy in China..except they call them chumplings
:crackup: @ "chumplings"
 

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Man none of what you talk about makes sense. If you kill your insecurities you are confident no **** dude...
 
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