"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No Single Friends Left
- Thread starter NSUballer
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I think the real question you need to be asking is not why you cant' find any single friends but why do you feel the need to associate wtih just single people in the first place.
llet me rephrase; i know why you feel that need, but it shouldn't' be that way.
our society is so ****ed up now that we have basically Jim Crowism for marriages and unmarried people; separate but equal. married men can't be around single men, and single men don't want to be around married men. Men not wanting to interact with other men beucase of their relationship status is about as silly as men not wanting to interact with other men beucase of their race, however that's where we are.
It really is sad. and **** I feel you I'm married and i don't really want to be bothered with most married men myself, MOST not all. most married men put their relationship with their wives above all else even to the detriment to the things they want in life or their own well being and that's something I can't tolerate. Men, most of them, well, I can only speak for the ones I know and run into want a woman so bad that they are willing to sacrifice things that are core to their identity to secure it.
llet me rephrase; i know why you feel that need, but it shouldn't' be that way.
our society is so ****ed up now that we have basically Jim Crowism for marriages and unmarried people; separate but equal. married men can't be around single men, and single men don't want to be around married men. Men not wanting to interact with other men beucase of their relationship status is about as silly as men not wanting to interact with other men beucase of their race, however that's where we are.
It really is sad. and **** I feel you I'm married and i don't really want to be bothered with most married men myself, MOST not all. most married men put their relationship with their wives above all else even to the detriment to the things they want in life or their own well being and that's something I can't tolerate. Men, most of them, well, I can only speak for the ones I know and run into want a woman so bad that they are willing to sacrifice things that are core to their identity to secure it.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
I can understand the reason that a man would put distance between him and his single friends. Me personally I had to do that. The reason is because me and my single friends don't have much in common. When I was single me and my boys would be hitting up clubs, going out to the malls to sarge, drinking and f*cking b*tches. My boy called me last week trying to hang out and he was talking about a strip club. Now I never even went to a strip club in my life and I don't plan on going in my life.backbreaker said:
My boys sense of fun is going out and messing with girls. and to be honest with you thats whats fun to me to. Not even going to lie. Just the way that it is. If they called me to hit the gym or to hop on some game or something you know I'd be down (if me and the girlie ain't have plans).
Same thing applies if you flipt the script. If your in a long term relationship and your girlfriend is hanging with 9 double d!ck clutching h0's you damn skippy she gonna be the 10th one if she hang with them all the time. Especially because we all know that females are easily influenced.
I don't quite ostracize my taken friends in the way you describe it, and actually I hang out with them once in a while for poker night, a bday... But I'm very busy and usually I don't have more than one night a week to go out. And the choice usually is: do I want to go and spend all night on a boat fishing and drinking with my married friends, or do I go out to a bar/club, trying to get me some fresh pvssy?backbreaker said:
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear NSU,
You live in a big City,take up Dancing,Ball room,Salsa orTango,all three if you want....You will never be short of company,where else can you turn up put your Dancing shoes on,and have a Chicky Babe in your arms in five minutes flat?
You live in a big City,take up Dancing,Ball room,Salsa orTango,all three if you want....You will never be short of company,where else can you turn up put your Dancing shoes on,and have a Chicky Babe in your arms in five minutes flat?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.