No sexual attraction at the club.

[bigneil]

This was before 9/11. The good old days. I never refused anyone (even people who I didn't like). Come one, come all. Those were great days.

Highlights:

1) I got my dream girl to show up in 1998 (the only girl in my whole life who I liked as much than my current gf - never so much as kissed her though).
2) In 2001, one girl asked if she could spend the night but said we were NOT having sex (that meant we were having sex). The moment the last guest left, she said "tie me up".
3) At the next party the same girl showed up and said "Are you going to take care of my as-s tonight?" (see photo). I took her straight to my bedroom and got her naked and someone knocked on my door and I said "Not now" and they said "The police are here". So I ran out, putting my shirt on, to see a line of people going to my bathroom, and there were 150 people, and the police broke it up because the street had been blocked. I forgot all about the girl and the next time I saw her she said "Why didn't you come back to the bedroom?"
4) I had an ex who was going to stay (five years later, now 22 when she had been 17). I had to get rid of one drunk guy so I drove him and a friend out to his house and he had a house key on a ring with literally 100 keys. And he dropped it at his door. I picked it up, looked at them, picked out the one that looked like the house key and it worked first try. My friend said "You're MacGyver!!" I got back just in time to fend off two guys trying to scoop her.

 

[RangerMIke]

The only way to tell if you are doing anything wrong in a club is to see you. But based on what chicks were telling you you were coming off as pathetic. How you look and how you present yourself is more important in a club then anything you might say or do. Dress well... and the details are important. Stand up straight and don't hunch over. If you don't know how to dance... don't try. Don't walk around grinning like an idiot, just look like you are having a good time. Pay attention to how women are acting around you, and don't pay any attention to what they are saying... in a club you can't really hear anything anyway. If she is saying something and you can't hear her... make her come to you. Shake your head point to your ear, and gesture her forward. If she won't comply.... then ignore her and onto the next one. The key to having success with chicks in a club is to pay attention to the ones that are giving you approach signals, and act on it. After that she should work to keep your attention if she isn't then she's not worth your time. She either some structured b!tch or she is testing you to see if you will come unglued when she doesn't respond. OR she doesn't really like you... either way nothing is going to happen.

Another thing I used to do in my clubing days was I wouldn't show up until very late and I would get rested up, show up sober, and not drink. You are fresh... you smell good, and you have your wits about you. Plus you can take chicks home because you are too drunk to drive. Game sober...much better results, and you won't end up in bed with a land whale.

 

[blakeyt]

When girls give you pity and say things like "I felt sorry for you so I thought I'd invite you over" - take this as a TEST.

This is where attraction begins, because if you can confidently hold your frame and blow these things off as no big deal, and spin it back on her -THAT's when she'll get attracted.

You need to SHOW her that you're a strong man capable of leading and that she can't walk all over you - which is what she did. This is called Polarity. Super important for sexual attraction.

As for the girls on the dance floor giving you a "twinge of disgust" - that's because they can sense the NEEDINESS dripping off you (you're conveying it in the way you're looking at them).

Girls are disgusted by needy guys and will be ruthless in how they treat them.

Work on holding your frame and being polarizing, and "acting as if" you already has all the women you could handle to eliminate neediness. Sometimes you gotta fake it til you make it.