rsofa said:
Well i do hang out with other girls and stuff, i go to collidge and see her only on weekends so i cant even be 2 attached.
Being attached is not a physical thing... You could go 6 months without seeing a girl, but still be attached. It is a mindset...if this girl walked away tomorrow and you could not honestly say you would not give a sh*t, then you are attached.
Responding to what you said earlier, do not think that just because a girl sowed some wild oats before she was 18 that there isn't more to come. If you start falling into that trap by believing "she will never leave," you are setting yourself up for failure.
Never put yourself into a relationship where you are accepting of something you are not comfortable with. You are young, and it is probably going to take some hard, HARD knocks before you realize that it never works. Usually when I see guys stay with a girl, putting up with a situation they would rather not be in, it doesn't end well. More often than not they give her all the power, put up with a lot of stuff they aren't comfortable with, just for her to turn around and crush him some way.
What you
NEED to do is think about what you want in life, and in a girl... then based on that, develop
a strict personal constitution. Once you have that, do not break it, do not bend your own self governing rules...do not put up with sh*t that you promised yourself you wouldn't.
Not having a personal constitution is how guys get sucked into ****ty relationships with an offset balance of power not in their favor. If you say to yourself "This is something I refuse to deal with," you will put your foot down from the start. It sounds like she has a strict personal constitution...and included in it is a provision that says "I'm not gonna be coerced into having sex when I don't want to." She put that up front before you were dating. You didn't take this at face value and thought you had the power to amend her constitution...And, granted there are cases where this can happen when you play your cards right... But if it hasn't happened in 4 months, she is not going to change it unless it is of her own accord. You have already set the precedent...she knows, or at least thinks you are not going anywhere.
Mentally draft a
strict personal constitution, then stick to it. You will be happier, and a stronger man.