"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ValleyDJing

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Alright, just started college. I'm trying to establish myself as the alpha in my classes, just acting like a class clown and all. I'm crackin jokes all day long but people don't have a sense of humor or something. (*note, I did this all the time in high school and everyone thought I was a riot so I know its not me). So my thoughts are basically, great! now what?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ace of Flames

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I've been getting the same kind of reactions. Its hard to meet people so far. Everyone is all shy and blocked off in their own little world. And everyone else seems like they know each other from before college. There are probably less than 10 people from my high school at my college, so I came into it knowing no one.

I'd suggest you to do what I'm gonna do. Just keep trying. As soon as everyone gets used to everything, they should loosen up a bit.
 

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College isn't high school. Its a different level of people so you'll need to figure things out all over again.

Class isn't the time to be messing around at that level. Establish yourself as an alpha outside of class where people aren't focused on studies.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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flexion_ said:
Class isn't the time to be messing around at that level. /QUOTE]

ehh. maybe. I just dont see whats wrong with some jokes. I mean, college classes are Boring! but i guess i can see where you're coming from. everybody is paying for their own school so now it matters to them. But hey! so am I you know? ehh, whatever.
 

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here is your problem... ppl in college paid to get in there.. the ppl that laughed with in hs. was probly dumb as$es or felt social pressure to go along with what every one else was doing.... in college if u wanna be the alpha male try being funny in a smart way... learn your siht... belive it or not women find inteligence as atractive as humor... try the humor out side of class.. dont be a dumb a$$ and interupt ur professor, when ppl are trying to learn some important siht or take notes... there gonna think u just want attention.. well i guess if u can try this class clown sith in comminity college dont try it in a school you actully have to have brains to get into.. sorry to be such an as$ hole, but i had the same experience.. when i started college.. but in anycase... change up ur game, and fcuking deal with it...
 

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class clown never get respect from ppl even in high school

you get a few dumb blondes to crack up and laugh here and there, but that's about all the social power you can muster benig a class clown

if you wanna be alpha male being the smart kid (not nerd or geeky, but smart) or the jock work much better

but seriously, what makes you think in college there is still class clown :crackup:
 

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I'm trying to establish myself as the alpha in my classes, just acting like a class clown and all.

There is 'nothing' alpha about being a class clown. In my opinion, class clowns are people who are looking for attention out of insecurity. Alphas are very secure in who they are, so the last thing they need is someone's attention or approval, in or out of class.

High School is where kids get a chance to socialize and interact with other students. In College, you have other locations (like bars) to do that, so your tactics won't work. I agree with cyp on this one, if you want to stand out in class, show your intelligence, not your a$$.

Good luck.
 

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You sound like a royal douchebag. Acting like a class clown in college classes will only make people think you're an attention-craving jackass. Even the most laid-back of college classes are nothing like highschool, so your little class clown act has got to go.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Are people who are really that funny talk about "trying to establish themself as alpha" in such a serious way? Mabye they weren't laughin at your jokes.
 
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