This is a unique situation for me...I usually succeed at figuring out women's games and passing their "tests". Or, if they're not interested, I get the hint right away and move on. When I'm at that testing phase, I usually don't care enough yet to take their games seriously, so I'll just react how I normally would and play a little hard to get myself.
I really haven't been swept off my feet in over 5 years (I'm 25). I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship a few months ago. I ended it and I'm completely over it. I've been playing the field since then and not wanting another relationship for awhile. However, last weekend, I met this girl who pretty much swept me off my feet. I never thought I'd fall for a girl like this because I absolutely love the single life, but this one has me hooked for some reason. She told me about 4 times that she had a great time with me and kept thanking me for it. She lives about 5 hours away from me. I've made 2 calls since then and haven't gotten any response.
Ok, that's the story in a nutshell. In order to give good advice, you need the details. So, if you like giving advice and reading these long-assed stories, here is the chronology:
1) I was at my parents' for the holidays. Took the train this year. I met this girl (23) on the return ride back to my home in Chicago. She was on her way up to visit a friend for New Year's. I sat next to her on the train and we talked the whole 3.5 hour ride up...laughing constantly, sharing stories, etc. The ice breaker was that she knew some of my distant cousins because she is from their area (she actually dated a distant cousin of mine in high school; about 5 years ago). We bought each other a few beers on the way and hit it off really well. We exchanged numbers and I told her I'd be going out every night during the weekend and that we should hang out once during her stay. She agreed. I thought this girl was really nice and fun to hang out with, but at this point, I wasn't all that interested yet. But, I did want to hang out again.
2) The next day came and I called her in the afternoon. I told her that a buddy and I were going to a movie at 7 and that we'd like to possibly meet up with her and her friend afterwards. We left the location up in the air. Afterwards, I called her and told her to meet up with us on our side of town. It's a good 15-minute cab ride, but they ended up meeting us at the bar we were at. During our time at the bar, I started to become really interested in this girl....and NO, it wasn't because of the booze. She knew how to party, was very attractive, and fun to talk to. We were sitting close and being flirty with each other the whole time. Then we decided to hit up another bar. My buddy and her friend went to the restroom. That's when I made the move and planted the first kiss on her. She was receptive and kissed me back.
3) Went to the next bar and had a great time. It was the same flirty actions we were doing before, with a kiss here and there. At closing time, all 4 of us decided to hang out at my place.
4) We hung out at my place, all feeling pretty drunk at this point. We started making out here and there. My friend and her friend weren't that into each other, but were still having a good time. Then, her friend wanted to leave, but my girl didn't want to (she made the excuse of feeling sick). Anyway, we ended up falling alseep on the couch until about 6 or 7 a.m.
5) We got up and went to my room where we started making out and "feeling up" for awhile. I always let a girl make the first move when it comes to sex, so I wasn't pushing anything. Her friend started poking her head in my room at 8 a.m. wanting to leave again, so we weren't in there for very long. I'm happy where it ended up because I really liked this girl and didn't want to rush anything. They left and I told her she was invited to our NYE party, which would be going on after the bars closed. If I didn't see her, then I told her I would take her to lunch before her train ride home. I texted her a "happy nye beautiful...wish i was with you" message shortly after midnight, but didn't get a text response back until the next morning. The response was very positive and receptive though.
6) The next day I called at 11 and told her I would take her to lunch at 1. She agreed, so I met her and we went to lunch. We told each other about our NYE events and had nice conversation the whole time. I mentioned that my ex-gf showed up last night and made things a little difficult. However, I stressed that we've been broken up for 3 months now and I was completely over her. Then she told me that it sounded similar to her 3-year relationship that she got out of last year. Ok, no big deal that I mentioned the ex....probably shouldn't have, but not a big deal. After lunch, I told her that I would walk her to the train station along with her friend. She agreed.
7) We walked to the train station, holding hands and putting our arms around each other....more good signs. Before she got on the train, I kissed her good-bye and told her I would call her later in the week. I also mentioned earlier that maybe I would plan a trip to come down and visit her sometime. (Maybe too soon to mention?) She was receptive. Great. Her ride is about 5 hours, so I called her about half way into it because I figured she was bored. We talked for a few minutes and joked about the first ride that we met on and that was it. I told her I had a great time with her and was just calling to see how her long ride was going. Ok, no problems here, but I'm wondering if I should have made that call or not.
8) Even though I was busy, I thought about her a lot the following days. I was going to do the 3-day rule, but decided to call after 2 days instead. First I texted her from work around 5:30 p.m., asking if she'd be around her phone later because I was currently in a meeting. No response. I called her anyway about 3 hours later. No answer. So, I left a message saying that I was calling to say hi and to see how her week was going. I never got a call, text, or even an email in response.
9) I waited until today, 3 days later, to call her again. I figured she was playing some kind of hard-to-get game or something (I was being optimistic). She didn't answer again. I left her a friendly message saying that I was wondering how her week back at work went. I also said that my roommate and I were going to be in a city down her way tonight. It's about 3 hours away from her, but I still told her that she was more than welcome to meet up with us. I also said that I would love to hear back from her sometime.
Ok, that's pretty much the end of the story. I'm stuck here wondering what the hell is happening. We had such a great time together, she seemed to show a lot of interest, and even made some moves herself. She was very friendly, down to earth, and not one of those high maintenance types that like to play games.
I know it's been only a week, but there's a reason why she didn't return my phone call. I'm trying to figure that out. Usually I don't make a big deal out of this at all because there are times when I'm too busy to return phone calls myself. But, she didn't pick up or respond to my second call either.
I want to be pursuant, which is what all girls want, but at the same time, I have my pride and will start to assume that I'm being ignored for a negative reason.
I don't want to get into a relationship anytime soon, but I do like this girl and want to get to know her better. We have a lot in common, she's attractive, down to earth, etc. Like I said, I haven't been "woo'ed" like this in a long time, so I don't want to throw my hands up and let go of something potentially special if I don't have to. But, I'm starting to feel more pessimistic about the whole situation and will soon say the hell with pursuing if I keep getting ignored.
Is she playing hard-to-get or is she just not interested? I thought maybe she had a boyfriend, but she told me she was single (I know, you have to take that with a grain of salt). Maybe I was a weekend fling?
Any thoughts you guys have will be well appreciated. I'm also willing to give advice for you fellas in different situations.
Thanks, and cheers.
I really haven't been swept off my feet in over 5 years (I'm 25). I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship a few months ago. I ended it and I'm completely over it. I've been playing the field since then and not wanting another relationship for awhile. However, last weekend, I met this girl who pretty much swept me off my feet. I never thought I'd fall for a girl like this because I absolutely love the single life, but this one has me hooked for some reason. She told me about 4 times that she had a great time with me and kept thanking me for it. She lives about 5 hours away from me. I've made 2 calls since then and haven't gotten any response.
Ok, that's the story in a nutshell. In order to give good advice, you need the details. So, if you like giving advice and reading these long-assed stories, here is the chronology:
1) I was at my parents' for the holidays. Took the train this year. I met this girl (23) on the return ride back to my home in Chicago. She was on her way up to visit a friend for New Year's. I sat next to her on the train and we talked the whole 3.5 hour ride up...laughing constantly, sharing stories, etc. The ice breaker was that she knew some of my distant cousins because she is from their area (she actually dated a distant cousin of mine in high school; about 5 years ago). We bought each other a few beers on the way and hit it off really well. We exchanged numbers and I told her I'd be going out every night during the weekend and that we should hang out once during her stay. She agreed. I thought this girl was really nice and fun to hang out with, but at this point, I wasn't all that interested yet. But, I did want to hang out again.
2) The next day came and I called her in the afternoon. I told her that a buddy and I were going to a movie at 7 and that we'd like to possibly meet up with her and her friend afterwards. We left the location up in the air. Afterwards, I called her and told her to meet up with us on our side of town. It's a good 15-minute cab ride, but they ended up meeting us at the bar we were at. During our time at the bar, I started to become really interested in this girl....and NO, it wasn't because of the booze. She knew how to party, was very attractive, and fun to talk to. We were sitting close and being flirty with each other the whole time. Then we decided to hit up another bar. My buddy and her friend went to the restroom. That's when I made the move and planted the first kiss on her. She was receptive and kissed me back.
3) Went to the next bar and had a great time. It was the same flirty actions we were doing before, with a kiss here and there. At closing time, all 4 of us decided to hang out at my place.
4) We hung out at my place, all feeling pretty drunk at this point. We started making out here and there. My friend and her friend weren't that into each other, but were still having a good time. Then, her friend wanted to leave, but my girl didn't want to (she made the excuse of feeling sick). Anyway, we ended up falling alseep on the couch until about 6 or 7 a.m.
5) We got up and went to my room where we started making out and "feeling up" for awhile. I always let a girl make the first move when it comes to sex, so I wasn't pushing anything. Her friend started poking her head in my room at 8 a.m. wanting to leave again, so we weren't in there for very long. I'm happy where it ended up because I really liked this girl and didn't want to rush anything. They left and I told her she was invited to our NYE party, which would be going on after the bars closed. If I didn't see her, then I told her I would take her to lunch before her train ride home. I texted her a "happy nye beautiful...wish i was with you" message shortly after midnight, but didn't get a text response back until the next morning. The response was very positive and receptive though.
6) The next day I called at 11 and told her I would take her to lunch at 1. She agreed, so I met her and we went to lunch. We told each other about our NYE events and had nice conversation the whole time. I mentioned that my ex-gf showed up last night and made things a little difficult. However, I stressed that we've been broken up for 3 months now and I was completely over her. Then she told me that it sounded similar to her 3-year relationship that she got out of last year. Ok, no big deal that I mentioned the ex....probably shouldn't have, but not a big deal. After lunch, I told her that I would walk her to the train station along with her friend. She agreed.
7) We walked to the train station, holding hands and putting our arms around each other....more good signs. Before she got on the train, I kissed her good-bye and told her I would call her later in the week. I also mentioned earlier that maybe I would plan a trip to come down and visit her sometime. (Maybe too soon to mention?) She was receptive. Great. Her ride is about 5 hours, so I called her about half way into it because I figured she was bored. We talked for a few minutes and joked about the first ride that we met on and that was it. I told her I had a great time with her and was just calling to see how her long ride was going. Ok, no problems here, but I'm wondering if I should have made that call or not.
8) Even though I was busy, I thought about her a lot the following days. I was going to do the 3-day rule, but decided to call after 2 days instead. First I texted her from work around 5:30 p.m., asking if she'd be around her phone later because I was currently in a meeting. No response. I called her anyway about 3 hours later. No answer. So, I left a message saying that I was calling to say hi and to see how her week was going. I never got a call, text, or even an email in response.
9) I waited until today, 3 days later, to call her again. I figured she was playing some kind of hard-to-get game or something (I was being optimistic). She didn't answer again. I left her a friendly message saying that I was wondering how her week back at work went. I also said that my roommate and I were going to be in a city down her way tonight. It's about 3 hours away from her, but I still told her that she was more than welcome to meet up with us. I also said that I would love to hear back from her sometime.
Ok, that's pretty much the end of the story. I'm stuck here wondering what the hell is happening. We had such a great time together, she seemed to show a lot of interest, and even made some moves herself. She was very friendly, down to earth, and not one of those high maintenance types that like to play games.
I know it's been only a week, but there's a reason why she didn't return my phone call. I'm trying to figure that out. Usually I don't make a big deal out of this at all because there are times when I'm too busy to return phone calls myself. But, she didn't pick up or respond to my second call either.
I want to be pursuant, which is what all girls want, but at the same time, I have my pride and will start to assume that I'm being ignored for a negative reason.
I don't want to get into a relationship anytime soon, but I do like this girl and want to get to know her better. We have a lot in common, she's attractive, down to earth, etc. Like I said, I haven't been "woo'ed" like this in a long time, so I don't want to throw my hands up and let go of something potentially special if I don't have to. But, I'm starting to feel more pessimistic about the whole situation and will soon say the hell with pursuing if I keep getting ignored.
Is she playing hard-to-get or is she just not interested? I thought maybe she had a boyfriend, but she told me she was single (I know, you have to take that with a grain of salt). Maybe I was a weekend fling?
Any thoughts you guys have will be well appreciated. I'm also willing to give advice for you fellas in different situations.
Thanks, and cheers.