"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hellomisslady

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So I messaged this girl this week and kept it short the first time and when I told her I had to go she gave me her number without me asking. We talked a little the next day and the day after, I told her I wanted to meet up with her for breakfast on Sunday. No answer that night. She texted me the next morning saying she fell asleep which I believe because it was already about 11 when I sent that, and told me Friday or Saturday would work better for her. So I told her I was busy at the moment (which I was) and I'd get back to her. I texted her a few hours later saying does Saturday work for her, no answer.

1.5 days later now and still nothing. I haven't sent her back anything after that either though. Is there anything I should say that would peak her interest? She did seem very flirty and interested pretty much until this.

Also I'm having a party tomorrow night and a mutual friend is going to DJ it, should I let her know and tell her to come to that? He said we should eiffel tower her because he's been trying to talk to her also hahah.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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VladPatton

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Classic case of loss of interest. Ball's in her court, don't send anymore texts. Take caution, this may be a lost cause. An interested girl will blow up your phone.
 

alpha_ash

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Lol Eiffel towering sounds totally gay, especially if you plan on spinning her around once in a while!

In all seriousness, don't give her any more attention. She needs to work for your attention and if she doesn't want it, then why try hard to sell it? She will come around after she sees that you have lost interest. If she does, you pretend to be busy, and give her a date on a weeknight, and never text her at night.
 

Hellomisslady

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thanks for the advice, I haven't texted her. I'm thinking she'll be the one to text me in a few days anyways. I might get my other friend to let her know about the party though in that case. Free social cred for me
 
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