"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No one likes my Facebook Posts, I have no friends!!

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Help! I live in Chicago currently,
I have no friends and my facebook wall is pathetic.

Whenever I post anything on my facebook,
I get zero likes.

I am the only one who likes my post.

Then I see guys/girls that get 80 LIKES even if they
post something stupid or immature.

Why do some people have such a monopoly on friends?

I have no hope of getting a girlfriend, everytime I meet someone new
they ask for my facebook, and then the girl sees that I am a total

reject/weirdo/loser.

Can anyone relate to this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Delete your Facebook immediately and never look back.
 

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you can either post better stuff, make better friends, or delete your facebook.


choice is yours bud
 

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Do you have lots of friends on Facebook?

It seems the average person has lots of friends.

Everyone except for me. I don't know what is wrong with me,

but this society has outcast me.

I try to make friends with people but they never talk to me.

I message people on facebook and they ignore me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This thread makes me feel better about myself.
 

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TheLoner said:
Help! I live in Chicago currently,
I have no friends and my facebook wall is pathetic.

Whenever I post anything on my facebook,
I get zero likes.

I am the only one who likes my post.

Then I see guys/girls that get 80 LIKES even if they
post something stupid or immature.

Why do some people have such a monopoly on friends?

I have no hope of getting a girlfriend, everytime I meet someone new
they ask for my facebook, and then the girl sees that I am a total

reject/weirdo/loser.

Can anyone relate to this?

Naughty Ninja likes this trollolololol post. :up:
 

TheStig

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TheLoner said:
Do you have lots of friends on Facebook?

It seems the average person has lots of friends.

Everyone except for me. I don't know what is wrong with me,

but this society has outcast me.

I try to make friends with people but they never talk to me.

I message people on facebook and they ignore me.
You can't place so much importance on facebook, it's not real life. I'd be willing to bet that people with 1000+ friends don't even know 60% of them. Vlad was actually helpful when he said delete it and never look back. If it's causing you grief and you're stressing about it, why keep it? Get out there and do things in the world. You have a job? Hobbies? Ever go out on weekends? Workout? You can meet people through these things and make some friends.

Facebook is really only good for keeping in touch with family who may live far away, and talking to people you actually know in real life. I rarely, rarely ever post statuses, and the only people I interact with are close friends (say, if I am, or one of them is having phone problems...lost it, broke it etc...).
 

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TheLoner said:
Help! I live in Chicago currently,
I have no friends a...
I am the only one who likes my post

That should tell you a lot about yourself right there.

You like your own posts? What the hell is wrong with you???

Delete your facebook, as it is obviously only hurting you. If a girl asks why you don't have one, tell her it was too much of a time-wasting thing and it bored you. If she pries further, just shrug your shoulders and say "it's just not the thing for me."

Next:

Read the DJ bible

Hit the gym; lift weights, stay off the cardio (it doesn't do much)

Fix your wardrobe

Get rejected 100 times

Do something really challenging, like sky diving or hike the Appalachian trail

Read 50 good books this year

Get a hobby, whether its art, music, what-the-freaking-ever

Listen to the advice of experienced guys on the forum; they know more than you

Don't be flippant with your replies; criticism and growth can both be painful

If you suck as a person right now, work on being awesome in 5 years

Perseverance is your ally

Negativity, especially toward yourself, is a self-defeating spiral

Start a journal on your pick-up failures and successes; you'll learn a lot

Read the best blogs out there. My suggestions for you: Fix My Girl Problems, The Rational Male, Chateau Heartiste, Roosh V, SoSauve (of course), and other "lesser ones" (e.g., The Private Man, Alphagame, M3).

Also, go to this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705

Good luck. You have work to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
That should tell you a lot about yourself right there.

You like your own posts? What the hell is wrong with you???

Delete your facebook, as it is obviously only hurting you. If a girl asks why you don't have one, tell her it was too much of a time-wasting thing and it bored you. If she pries further, just shrug your shoulders and say "it's just not the thing for me."

Next:

Read the DJ bible

Hit the gym; lift weights, stay off the cardio (it doesn't do much)

Fix your wardrobe

Get rejected 100 times

Do something really challenging, like sky diving or hike the Appalachian trail

Read 50 good books this year

Get a hobby, whether its art, music, what-the-freaking-ever

Listen to the advice of experienced guys on the forum; they know more than you

Don't be flippant with your replies; criticism and growth can both be painful

If you suck as a person right now, work on being awesome in 5 years

Perseverance is your ally

Negativity, especially toward yourself, is a self-defeating spiral

Start a journal on your pick-up failures and successes; you'll learn a lot

Read the best blogs out there. My suggestions for you: Fix My Girl Problems, The Rational Male, Chateau Heartiste, Roosh V, SoSauve (of course), and other "lesser ones" (e.g., The Private Man, Alphagame, M3).

Also, go to this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705

Good luck. You have work to do.

It's really hard to get up in the morning when you know you have no friends.

People see this but they do not care.

Society is cruel and evil.
 

TheLoner

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It is hard to get up in the morning knowing that I have no friends.

People see this but they do not care.

Why is society so cruel and evil?
 

TheLoner

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
That should tell you a lot about yourself right there.

You like your own posts? What the hell is wrong with you???

Delete your facebook, as it is obviously only hurting you. If a girl asks why you don't have one, tell her it was too much of a time-wasting thing and it bored you. If she pries further, just shrug your shoulders and say "it's just not the thing for me."

Next:

Read the DJ bible

Hit the gym; lift weights, stay off the cardio (it doesn't do much)

Fix your wardrobe

Get rejected 100 times

Do something really challenging, like sky diving or hike the Appalachian trail

Read 50 good books this year

Get a hobby, whether its art, music, what-the-freaking-ever

Listen to the advice of experienced guys on the forum; they know more than you

Don't be flippant with your replies; criticism and growth can both be painful

If you suck as a person right now, work on being awesome in 5 years

Perseverance is your ally

Negativity, especially toward yourself, is a self-defeating spiral

Start a journal on your pick-up failures and successes; you'll learn a lot

Read the best blogs out there. My suggestions for you: Fix My Girl Problems, The Rational Male, Chateau Heartiste, Roosh V, SoSauve (of course), and other "lesser ones" (e.g., The Private Man, Alphagame, M3).

Also, go to this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705

Good luck. You have work to do.

I have lots of hobbies,

arts and crafts, soccer etc,

I have done everything you recommended on that list,

No one from my soccer group wants to talk to me,

they all go out after a game but convienently forget to invite me.

THen when I see them out, some of them actually say to me "dude im with people"
 

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Not sure if troll or victim of system.

Anyway in doubt lets give general suggestions for lurkers to benefit.

If your facebook sucks simly dont give it do girls you are working on, I may say even if its ok but not awesome dont give it.
If your life sucks you have to fake it untill you make it, you cant if your life is an open book.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
Not sure if troll or victim of system.

Anyway in doubt lets give general suggestions for lurkers to benefit.

If your facebook sucks simly dont give it do girls you are working on, I may say even if its ok but not awesome dont give it.
If your life sucks you have to fake it untill you make it, you cant if your life is an open book.
I care more about making friends at this point than getting a girlfriend!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the world seems cruel because it is. Selfishness and jealousy rule. Good news, now you can stop being jealous and start being selfish. FTW dude. You live in one of the biggest, liveliest cities in the world. Throw away your computer, grab your balls and hit the streets. There is awesome power in being a loner. A lone wolf, not a puppy. When sheeple see a man with his act together by himself, they get umcomfortable. Anyone who is confident and happy without fakebook or a herd of fake bithches is a threat to sheeple. Now, maybe you know something they dont. Youve just become mysterious, not creepy. Mystery is another powerful tool you can take advantage of. Now, find a local bar. Go to happy hour evey day for a couple weeks. Within a few days, the bar keep will recognize you and you can strike up convo with them and any other familiar faces. Wear a suit, or at least a tie. Makes people wonder where you came from or are going. Handcuff a breifcase to your wrist and youll be begging people to leave you alone. Find a cool music scene and hit it on the regular too. hanging by the bar, watching a band is cool wether you meet anyone or not. In summer go to a bar near the cubs or sox and check the game there. No doubt it'll be packed. Same with the bears in winter. There are clubs that have certain bars they meet at on game days. Pool. Find bars that have 9 ball tournaments, playing pool is a good way to chat and get to meet people. They have coed leagues too. Ditch the soccer team and find a coed kickball league. Not my thing but theres tons of chicks that play and the whole team goes out after games.
 

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I agree with everyone saying flush the fakebook. First of all, its meaningless to anyone living in reality. Second, the look on peoples faces when you laugh at them for even suggesting you have one is priceless. Nothing to feel odd about, simply chuckle and tell them " Nope, not into it". Let them think that perhaps they are the ones who just don't get "it".
 

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topshelf19 said:
the world seems cruel because it is. Selfishness and jealousy rule. Good news, now you can stop being jealous and start being selfish. FTW dude. You live in one of the biggest, liveliest cities in the world. Throw away your computer, grab your balls and hit the streets. There is awesome power in being a loner. A lone wolf, not a puppy. When sheeple see a man with his act together by himself, they get umcomfortable. Anyone who is confident and happy without fakebook or a herd of fake bithches is a threat to sheeple. Now, maybe you know something they dont. Youve just become mysterious, not creepy. Mystery is another powerful tool you can take advantage of. Now, find a local bar. Go to happy hour evey day for a couple weeks. Within a few days, the bar keep will recognize you and you can strike up convo with them and any other familiar faces. Wear a suit, or at least a tie. Makes people wonder where you came from or are going. Handcuff a breifcase to your wrist and youll be begging people to leave you alone. Find a cool music scene and hit it on the regular too. hanging by the bar, watching a band is cool wether you meet anyone or not. In summer go to a bar near the cubs or sox and check the game there. No doubt it'll be packed. Same with the bears in winter. There are clubs that have certain bars they meet at on game days. Pool. Find bars that have 9 ball tournaments, playing pool is a good way to chat and get to meet people. They have coed leagues too. Ditch the soccer team and find a coed kickball league. Not my thing but theres tons of chicks that play and the whole team goes out after games.

Thanks, I will try that,

anyone in Chicago want to add me to facebook?
 

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Vidrio said:
What's your FB name?
My facebook is set to Private, Private Message me your facebook and I will add you!!

Anyone else in Chicago have facebook?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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