No Motivation After # Closes

[DinoCassanova]

So what's up with that, do you think?? Lately, getting an actual # , that act in itself, hasn't actually proven to be THAT big of a challenge (alright, certainly there have been alot of shoot-downs too - who doesn't have those??) , but the actual challenge for me seems to be making my mind up to DO anything with the #'s after I've gotten them. For instance, in the past couple weeks, I've gotten about five. In various circumstances, which I won't go into here, because it's not really relevant to my post, to my question. But the thing is I've ended up using not one of them. It's like the whole point is (already) just becoming the gradual accrual of more and more phone numbers, which are never actually used. I thought, if that ever happened to me, that it would happen much later, like a year or two down the road or so. But I find myself having no motivation to use the #'s that I close. So that's my problem. Anybody else ever experienced that? What do you think the cause of it is?? I was thinking maybe it's something like subconscious fear of committment or something like that. I mean I know I DO have certain "intimacy issues" , and I think I might be essentially (what females would call) "emotionally unavailable" for certain reasons right now. But still , what good does it do to mack at all if you never follow through and even call the girl, much less take her on a date?? The whole first date thing, it feels like such a pain in the a$$ right now. You know, the "getting to know you" thing, the this and that, back and forth, etc etc. Who needs it?? So I don't know. Is it worth continuing to "sarge", or ?? Is it better to deal with the emotional "issues", or whatever you want to call it, first ?? ~D

 

[ScrewIt]

Sounds like you've got the # close down and have no problems with that.

But caling them up and such, maybe you're just not interested in them enough to call. Or perhaps you dread the idea of talking to them on the phone and setting a date (which might include rejection). which is why you're probably avoiding it.

So maybe the possiblity that you actually # CLOSE on girls you have no interest on to make things easier for yourself, and appear confident on the close because you know yourself you're not really interested in them. Stop fooling yourself.

Go out there and # close on girls you truly do want to ask out, no matter how afc you get you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

[Blatant truth]

DinoCassanova, that's exactly how I feel. But I figure after that point, just do it, whether or not I "feel" like it. It's almost becoming a chore...

 

[Rex Man]

Man, you have no idea.

In my circumstance, getting the # is easy as pie, yet after I get it, it usually sits in lost my celly, never to be heard from again.

To stop myself from doing this I've started trying to give an estimated time for my call like, "yeah, imma definitely probably hit you up later this week like Thur. or Fri."

 

[animal crackers]

It's the same as ejecting a pickup early when it's going good.

You got a good response at the initial meeting (got the #), but you're afraid that she might not be super thrilled to hang out. So you preserve your ego, and still feel good that you got a # without having to go through a rejection.

Thing is, are you getting sex and girlfriends from not calling? What's more important, preserving your ego, or having women in your life? Your call.



animal crackers

 

[dipset_mafia]

numbers are fun

Maybe this happens to you guys too??

I party a lot... I like going out etc etc... and I have this awesome problem of soemtimes temporarily involving myself with women I find myself totally disinterested in the following morning... I mean, not that they're ugly, and sometimes they are sub-par as far as my standards go (due to the copious amounts of alcohol occasionaly consumed), mind you, i am SUPER PICKY, I often pick-up the number, and never call... I'll either remember that she was slutty, or not hot, or really really dumb, or had some other undesirable quality (i.e. a former girlfriend of someone you know)

However, sometimes you find a gem like this, someone you're actually interested in meeting up with.... BUt i'd have to say the women I most genuinely gain interest in are those that I encounter while sober.....

 

[DonJuanMonk]

It's not issues. It's not intimacy issues. You're just not "that" into her, yet. Push yourself to make that call, who knows she may be the one