"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey Everyone

I have been lurking and and learning around here for a few weeks.

I'm amazed at how effective a lot of the suggestions here are.
I didn't realize that I was an AFC until I tried carrying myself and speaking with more confidence.

I'm in a relationship right now but even so the results of acting DJ have been dramatic. I'm getting more respect from my girlfriend at home. At work people have stopped talking over me in conversations. I'm going to continue to try out the suggestions here.

I'm in for the long haul guys.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Real_Deal said:
Hey Everyone

I have been lurking and and learning around here for a few weeks.

I'm amazed at how effective a lot of the suggestions here are.
I didn't realize that I was an AFC until I tried carrying myself and speaking with more confidence.

I'm in a relationship right now but even so the results of acting DJ have been dramatic. I'm getting more respect from my girlfriend at home. At work people have stopped talking over me in conversations. I'm going to continue to try out the suggestions here.

I'm in for the long haul guys.
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I found out long time ago being a AFC was the wrong way to go. I always found that being that way made me feel uneasy. I thought it was the way to go from the ladies point of view, but when I started hanging out with the guys that had DJ style I saw they had all the women. Not only that they didn't put up with none of the BS.
 
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Thanks for the warm welcome everyone. It's pretty rare to get that from a forum these days.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Welcome fellow Michigan dweller lol.

Our state is a blazing inferno one day and an icy tundra the next isn't it? ahahaha.

In anycase bro you'll find all the tips and advice you need for a succesful life around here.

Also a good thing to use in addition to this site at building a better you is the Tom Leykis radio program.

Just do a google search for it and you can listen in to his free podcasts.
 
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Thanks for the tip Kontroller I'm gonna check that show out.
It's good to know that there is other life in the crazy north.
 
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