"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No more friendzone

Al Moh.

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What is the friendzone other than another drawer people put you into? It's the AFC who sinks into this swamp of despair not being able to climb out of it. It's the Don Juan who is mysterious and always changing on his path of self-improvement that people just can't put him in ANY drawer. This is why the friendzone is nothing dangerous that you have to avoid, but rather a warning sign that you are leaving the DJ path or rather the path of constant self-improvement and update.

I noticed that all those nasty friendzones that I was still in when I came here slowly broke down as I did more and more things that people didn't expect me to do. No more cathegories!

Before I came here I was the tall, redhead computer geek. Now I am "this guy, well, you just have to see him yourself, can't really describe him."

Fear the friendzone no more. There are just two options: Sexual tension and no sexual tension. Just by being a mystery, a man, having fun and perceiving yourself as the prize you create basic attraction.

It's fun how you can create attraction out of thin air, even if the girl doesn't want to feel that way because she has some kind of morals or her slut defence is getting in the way. Hah! Never thought I would be now the guy who puts girls into his "friendzone". But no, it's rather the "no sexual tension" zone and they do have a chance of getting out of it if they behave well ;)

So the trick is constant self-improvement and mystery so that you just do not FIT into any friendzone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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