"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No more excuses- quit NOW.

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Just quit smoking on Monday.

All good so far. Did 2 days on the patch, but since that I've been clear, not even tempted to have a smoke.

I can breathe so much easier in the gym, and in every part of whatever I do already.

Just wanted to share, see if any other smokers wanna become ex smokers. Cos let's face it, there's nothing good about it.

Buff preaching from me. Join if you feel like it, post if you already quit too.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Congrats, I'm actually a pack a day smoker myself. I recently talked to my doctor and got a prescription for Chantix, should go and pick it up soon...
 

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buy a vaporizer and vaporize marijuana instead
 

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I smoked for 5 years and was at about a pack and a half before I quit (22 days ago). I did it cold turkey and have no regrets at all.

I'd say lose the patch and go cold turkey man. Check out http://www.whyquit.com It'll have everything you need to quit there. Being on the patch/gums pretty much makes you addicted to those instead of cigs, and you'll be in withdrawal for the rest of your life. You need to completely flush out all nicotine from your body (which will take 72 hours). After that, things get a lot easier.. but you will still have cranky moments, and still thinking about smoking.

My timeline so far pretty much went like this..

Day 1 - Annoying but not too bad
Day 2 - Worse, grumpy
Day 3 - All I could think about was smoking.. the worst day ever
Day 4 - Grumpy.. thought about smoking all day
Day 5 - Getting a little better.. only think about smoking for half the day..

And this continued for about 2 weeks.

I'd say after about day 10 or so.. you only think about smoking maybe 3 times a day. And the episodes only last 3 minutes, but they feel like the longest 3 minutes of your life.

I know 22 days isn't super long as a quitter, but I have no intention of going back. I've quit several times and failed, but I think this one has finally stuck. I hardly even think about smoking now.. the only time I do is when people are around me doing it, I see it on TV/movies (ain't it funny how much more you notice it when you're trying to quit?). or when I get a new "trigger" (something you'll learn about if you follow the advice on whyquit.com)

All I can say is good luck man.. it's hard, but worth it. I got my sense of smell and taste back and I love it.. my breathing is already starting to improve.. I'm less grumpy.. I don't have to go outside in sh!tty weather.. I'm not a SLAVE anymore.

-Scars
 

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Cheers for the input scars, I did quit for a year before congrats on your 3 week mark . I only used the patch for the first 2 days, now I'm completely clear and barely have the thought to have a cigarette. You are right though - don't want or need them .
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What helped me a lot was reading up on other people's stories, and information on the side effects etc.. it might sound weird because all you wanna do is NOT think about smoking but it worked for me. It gave me motivation, and I attacked it as a SMART quitter. I'd be on day 4 and reading charts like http://whyquit.com/whyquit/a_benefits_time_table.html just so I knew what to feel and expect on day 8 etc.. and I would anticipate and picture myself being on day 8 and accomplishing another short term goal. The best advice I have is take it day by day.. if you say "I'm going to quit forever", you'll drive yourself crazy.. just promise yourself not to smoke today. Then do the same thing tomorrow.

And if all else fails.. google image "smokers lungs".. it'll make you never want to smoke again. I used to have to remind myself constantly how damaging that sh!t really is..

Good luck man. Like I said, you got this. Hope to hear an update a month or two from now.

-Scars
 

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Sure thing - started a detox and training program 6 weeks of bulking. kinda what prompted me to just stop- its one of those things that you think "ill quit tomorrow " or "shiit I need a smoke, ill quit next week".

I decided to stop, same day I started this training.

still, ill update in a few months or whenever -I expect the same from you too. :up:


And @ Krueg- no time like the present bro, jump on the bandwagon. :up:
 

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Im with you in this journey, im smoking my last cigarette for a long period of time, truth is i love smoking and truth is smoking makes me self-confident.. But surely i cant rely on a ****ing drug to feel like a man

Let's do it!
 

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Been awhile sense I checked this thread, or this forum even.. but I'm still quit.

Lost track of how long, but I think I'm almost 2 months now.

Good luck to everyone!

-Scars
 

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****** Update ********

Well, Ive still quit. I had a cigarette out with some friends drinking a while back.

And at my friends wedding had a couple cigars. - damn couldnt breath the next day at the gym.

That was it. No smokes sober. all done :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Purefilth said:
****** Update ********

Well, Ive still quit. I had a cigarette out with some friends drinking a while back.

And at my friends wedding had a couple cigars. - damn couldnt breath the next day at the gym.

That was it. No smokes sober. all done :D
You're not supposed to inhale that sh1t lol they're cigars, the smoke is like the coarsest burning sandpaper going down! lol
 
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Zero nicotine in 2 months after 8 years. I had my last cigarette 4 months ago and it was nasty; cigarette smoke now disgusts me.
 
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