"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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met girl off internet tonight. I had her over at my place - and we talked for a while. It was our first meeting and we did meet off the internet so I lowered my expectations. anyways - we hung out for a few hours and she keeps talking about how we should hang out again - but no kiss at the end of date. I rubbed her back as she got out of the car. ahhh. what the ****. she's all asking what I'm doin next weekend and sayin we should hang out again - well heck no if I aint never gonna get a kiss

:cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you want a kiss, you have to go for it.
 

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If she wants to hang out, you need to initiate more.

if she accepts, woop dee doo.

if she resists, either slow down and take your time, or if i gather from your demeanor you just don't want to wait or invest any more time into it, Next.
 
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yeah that is what I was thinking. She seemed a little nervous the whole time - never met anyone straight off the internet before. I think she was feeling me out a little bit and I was kinda feeling out who she was likewise. But hey - if I do go for it next time and she rejects, then there will be no third time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would have gone for it - but I didn't see an opening. since it was our first meeting I felt like she had a barrier up. we had some good rapport and I made some small kino - but I dunno I guess I dropped the ball?
 

DJsomeday

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When i don't see a moment for a kiss i usually tease the girl (in a fun way though) and we laugh, then i tell her ok ok! i'll make it up to you i'm not that mean, come on give me a hug. If they don't accept the hug then it's a NEXT! or at least a NEXT... time we meet we might make out :p but not today lol.

Thing is i hug her, smell her hair and kiss!. Remember, what they say make the ho say no, or even better make the girl say yes!
 
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I should have teased her and at least gotten a hug. I think I was too focused on a desired outcome (goodnight kiss) that I missed other routes. The only thing is - I just can't 100 percent read her signals. she does seem interested - but I don't feel 100 percent on that. I mean - who knows if she thinks she just found a friend in me or something.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mavrick

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I could have banged her on the first date in your body.

You don't need her; you only want her. You have to make moves on her. If she's into you, that makes it all the more easier.

Go out with her again and go for more than just a kiss. Go for the pvssy.
 

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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I would have gone for it - but I didn't see an opening. since it was our first meeting I felt like she had a barrier up. we had some good rapport and I made some small kino - but I dunno I guess I dropped the ball?
The only opening is the one that you present. Tickle her a little bit, then lean over, ask "does this tickle?" and kiss her. It's so easy.

What was really wrong was you were afraid. You were scared that she would turn you down. If she did, so what? That's how you know.
 
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yeah, but come to think of it - I didnt get any kino back the whole night. I was wondering what was the deal. did I use too much kino?
 
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i've been kinda F****** since this one girl that I thought was into me - really wasn't at all. before I knew it I was in the friend zone hearing about her guy troubles. I cant tell if a girl is interested in me or interested in me as a friend. I used to be able to. now it seems I cant trust myself
 

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No opening? Create an opening. Try this:
You - "Are you adventurous?" (Sorry for bad spelling, I'm still learning English :D)
Her - "Yes" / "No, not so much"

You - "Awesome, I like adventurous girls, I'm gonna show you something cool! It's great fun" / "No? Cool, then I'll be gentle"

Take her hand, spin her around. Grab her firmly and kiss her!

You just created an opening for a kiss.

Much love,
- Insurreto
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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what has worked for me is during the eintire "date" do the whole kino thing and tease her a lot and get her to think youre the man through subtle, non arrogant ways like: take her somewhere you know people or where you know you will run into a chick that likes you and will run up and hug you and stuff, then at this point she SHOULD be thinking "Wow who is this guy?" Then I usually pick certain spots in the conversation to pull her hair back and whisper in her ear (works mostly in bars and clubs). This is a form of kino I refer to as proximity tension. So after all this teasing, ball busting, social proof, kino, and preselection stuff has been done yore pretty much in. Now for the kiss close I usually do the mystery close or gently grab her wrist, smile at her and go in for the kill.
 

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I hate the goodnight-kiss as a first kiss. Do something spontaneous, throw the first one into the middle of a date. Opportunities will be there. Grab the first one you get. Don't think about it; be manly and impulsive and just do it. If it works out well... then your get the goodnight-kiss too, and that one becomes super easy to do.
 
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I just still cant get this one chick from a few months ago out of my mind. I did kino on her - and got a LOT of kino back. we had the same class together. we always made a lot of eye contact - I thought I was in like Flynn. I tried to dance with her one night that we were at a club - and she's like "I just wanna dance alone." If I would have kissed her, I know I would have been rejected. I got all the positive signs and it turned out she was disinterested. How do I know that new girl isn't the same deal? Like how do I know she isn't thinking "gee we'd be great friends". screw that mess I dont want this new chick as a friend.
 
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well, I still haven't talked to this chick yet. I am busy this weekend going hiking around and needed my space from women. I don't know if going for the kiss and failing has eliminated my chances with chick in question. I dunno.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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