"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No job , no car, and no clue

cablecow15

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ok im 19 and still am unable to drive or get my license because i cant afford it and nither can my parents (which i still live with) I also have not been able to find a steady job.The fact that i live in a highly populated area dosen't make it any easier to get a job ither. Im currently attenting a community collage and there are some nice looking girls there, but i doubt theyd want to drive me around. So what id like help with is to know what i can do to build up my game in my situation, and is me not having a job or car as big of a problem as i think it is ? I used to get by fine having my parents drop me off at the movies when i was 16, but at my age i dont think that will give off a good image.lol oh and all of my friends with cars ither left the country or got shipped off to the military.

id love any opinions as what i should do
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jhcl4000

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Not having a job (though you sound like you need one), and living with your parents at 19 won't deter any girls. Not having a license or a car to drive WILL.

I would highly recommend working on getting a license and being able to drive. How do you even get to college? Do your parents drive you back and forth each day?
 

cablecow15

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yep , it suck's. The frustrating part is i cant do ither of those till i get some cash coming in. What skills should i focus on while i try to tackle my job/car problem? so far all i can think of is workingout and try to improve on my body.
 

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Working out is great, definitely try to stay in shape. You can also 'sarge' to improve your conversation skills and make (new and more) friends, maybe even get some #'s from girls, you don't have to call if you don't want to, but it'll increase your confidence.
 

cablecow15

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alright , ill stick with that then , ive noticed another thing recently , it seems alot of girls online seem to compliment me alot and it just blows me away that girls that look as good as these think i look so good , it makes me think ive been underestimating myself. besides silly image comments, how can i truely improve my confidence. i try to puff my self up but i guess i dont make myself belive what im trying to convince all the ladies.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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CarlitosWay

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Befriend some cool people who have cars? Stop making excuses for not being able to find jobs and settle for whatever you can get and stack up some quick money. Get your license and then borrow a parents car.

lol my ass was driving around illegally when I was 15. I honestly never got my license for a while (which was stupid but luckily I never got caught)

To truly build up confidence. Go over the pros in your life.

1) You're going to school/pursuing a purpose/career
2) You work out
3) You're young and sounds like you're not too bad looking
4) You have found a great resourceful site
5) You have a penis

Now get to it....junior
 
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