"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No, it isn't always your fault

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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I notice a lot of fellows here talk about how because they weren't strong enough and stopped caring about themselves, their woman cheated on them and left them (or something of the sort). How in the end, it was all the guy's fault that his girl cheated. Here's the the thing though:

It isn't. Not 100% of the time anyway.

You cannot always blame yourself for everything that goes wrong because you cannot possibly control every given factor all the time. Sure there are things you could have done better, but if a woman is going to cheat, then she is going to cheat. There's not much that you can do about it. Always look to better yourself, but don't always look to blame yourself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Von

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I notice a lot of fellows here talk about how because they weren't strong enough and stopped caring about themselves, their woman cheated on them and left them (or something of the sort). How in the end, it was all the guy's fault that his girl cheated. Here's the the thing though:

It isn't. Not 100% of the time anyway.

You cannot always blame yourself for everything that goes wrong because you cannot possibly control every given factor all the time. Sure there are things you could have done better, but if a woman is going to cheat, then she is going to cheat. There's not much that you can do about it. Always look to better yourself, but don't always look to blame yourself.
You are right... it's ain't 100%... However, in LTR, if you start slacking or not satisfying her sex needs... you increase your odds

Exactly like a girl who start getting overweightm stop sleeping with you etc... (ex: The girl got married so now she's slacking)... the guy might start looking elsewhere.

Why? It's because she's starting to stop being the person you were interested in the first place.
 

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A lot I divorcees and othe girls these days, you hear their sob story about how they got cheated on when they were married or in a LTR. It comes down to her gaining a ton of weight and being a cow, turning into a ****, or she was never worth commitment in the first place as she was a party slut. All 120% their fault, but they'll play the victim card and say the guys an *******. I don't condone cheating at all, that's why I casually date many and skip the commitment, but women see the antecedents of a man leaving, but they're oblivious living in la la land.


You are right... it's ain't 100%... However, in LTR, if you start slacking or not satisfying her sex needs... you increase your odds

Exactly like a girl who start getting overweightm stop sleeping with you etc... (ex: The girl got married so now she's slacking)... the guy might start looking elsewhere.

Why? It's because she's starting to stop being the person you were interested in the first place.
 

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Events actualize with specific purpose. Whether that be your or others' fault is irrelevant. The paramount focus is what YOU have learned from the mishap. If you have learned nothing and are close-minded to the lesson, you are not evolving--and thus failing.
 
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