"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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No idea how to play this girl...

syncmaster

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Ok, so she's been a friend for a while however there is some interest there. We've gone on dates and i've been invited back to her place a few times... The only issue is she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that". I'm tired of fvcking waiting and want to confirm a date the same moment. It's like closing a sale... I don't want a "be back" later on.
Any suggestions as to how I can play this and basically flip around what she's doing so it'll increase IL?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You've been invited back to her place and did you go? If not tisk tisk... No putang for you. Why dont you try surprising her by showing up at her work unexpectedly. And take her out to lunch on her break.. Well depending on what she does.. And if she gets a lunch break or whatever. Middle of the week is kewl... CHiks dig surprises.. or breakfeast... A walk around the block... Something use your mind while you sit at you comp passing the time... While I rhyme.... lol Im like doctor Suess
 

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lol btw whatever you do..dont rhyme to her!
 

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dunno girls I been with like it but use it sparingly if you got the gift.. Be smooth like silk, but take no filt and no drinking silk the soy milk. Jus burry yourself up to the hilt! Lmao
 

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hahaha thats great go dig some more holes you ****ty rhymer lol
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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*shrugs* Just using rythm and rhyme to past the time
 

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Originally posted by syncmaster
Ok, so she's been a friend for a while however there is some interest there. We've gone on dates and i've been invited back to her place a few times... The only issue is she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that". I'm tired of fvcking waiting and want to confirm a date the same moment. It's like closing a sale... I don't want a "be back" later on.
Any suggestions as to how I can play this and basically flip around what she's doing so it'll increase IL?
Okay, you have gone on dates together. What happened there, did u kiss her or fvck with her?

Are you an important part of her life so far? The more important you are in her eyes, the more she will find ways to see you when you want to see her. Independent of this, be happy to have a girl on your hand who actually has an own life. ;)
 

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Originally posted by syncmaster
Ok, so she's been a friend for a while however there is some interest there. We've gone on dates and i've been invited back to her place a few times... The only issue is she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that". I'm tired of fvcking waiting and want to confirm a date the same moment. It's like closing a sale... I don't want a "be back" later on.
Any suggestions as to how I can play this and basically flip around what she's doing so it'll increase IL?

MY question is did you ever get her back to your place and if so what did you do
 

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Not back to my place no... and whenever we went back to her place unfortunatley nothing happened. We've been friends for such a long time and have wanted to get together but one or the other has been in a relationship at the time. I'm completley to blame for moving at the speed of a special olympics athlete... lol :D
Its ****ty because we'd watch movies on her bed, in her room, with the door closed and it was HER idea...
Damn. Hahahah
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that".

That doesn't sound like a girl who is interested in anything romantic. If a girl is interested, but busy, she'll find a way to be with you, even if it's for a minute or two. If anything, she might be keeping you around because she knows she CAN. You are probably a good ego boost for her.

Any girl that says 'i'll have to get back to you on that' is really saying 'i'm not interested, but i don't want to hurt your feelings'.

I would distance myself from her, little by little. Besides, she's an hour away, I'm sure you can find girls allot closer then that.
 

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Originally posted by DonMEgaHoss
dunno girls I been with like it but use it sparingly if you got the gift.. Be smooth like silk, but take no filt and no drinking silk the soy milk. Jus burry yourself up to the hilt! Lmao
LOL!! What the F*** was that?! :crackup:

Just tell me what filt is, and what a hilt is... then maybe I'll understand it.
 

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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that".

That doesn't sound like a girl who is interested in anything romantic. If a girl is interested, but busy, she'll find a way to be with you, even if it's for a minute or two. If anything, she might be keeping you around because she knows she CAN. You are probably a good ego boost for her.

Any girl that says 'i'll have to get back to you on that' is really saying 'i'm not interested, but i don't want to hurt your feelings'.

I would distance myself from her, little by little. Besides, she's an hour away, I'm sure you can find girls allot closer then that.

... hrm ya know that makes sense. Even though i've been doing this a LONG ASS time i still miss the obvious sometimes. The ego boost makes perfect sense due to certain circumstances...
Thanks man.
 

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Originally posted by biker_gixxer
she's very busy. So whenever I try and make plans it's always "I'll have to get back to you on that".

That doesn't sound like a girl who is interested in anything romantic. If a girl is interested, but busy, she'll find a way to be with you, even if it's for a minute or two. If anything, she might be keeping you around because she knows she CAN. You are probably a good ego boost for her.

Any girl that says 'i'll have to get back to you on that' is really saying 'i'm not interested, but i don't want to hurt your feelings'.

I would distance myself from her, little by little. Besides, she's an hour away, I'm sure you can find girls allot closer then that.

Sounds about right-but if this chick is inviting him over to her house then I think he should at least attempt it-you'll know how she'll react unless you try....

"Turn Fear Into Curiousity"
 

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Sounds like you wanna turn a friend into a gf. Good luck with that one.

I wouldn't necessarily cut back on the contact. Instead, start telling her about the women you're dating. When you do see her, initiate some playful kino (poking her, tickling her). Turn her down once in a while because you have a date planned with someone else.

She'll wonder why everyone's dating you except her. Her IL will go up.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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hmmm I'd say deversify your assets a bit more. What side projects do you have going on or is this the only girl you've got in your pipeline? Try spoting and spending time with other women and then give this one another look. That always seems to give me prospective when i'm after a girl that seems to have her own agenda and may just be wasting your time...who knows you might even meet a girl that's even better then this one. Sounds like a win win situation to me.
 
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