"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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an easy way, is like playing pick up games of basketball, and u instantly meet new people
Talk to people wheerever u go, if u work out, talk to guys there
meet people everywhere....
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Or get a job where you'll meet people. Then round up girls there, and take them out on the weekend. Maybe a coffee shop. Think about what kind of person you are, and find something that fits.
Like if you're sort of an artist/intellectual type, coffee shop can be a good idea. Like Star Bucks or something.
This is all of course, assuming that your problem is that you have nothing to do with your weekend, not that your friends are gay.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Exactly focus on you proffesional and sexual life ,spend more time with your family ...males really are the" new females",most guys nowadays get very intimadated around a confident man(dj's ,player,and just confident guys in general)and they almost always ****block or aren't skilled enough to be wingmen so guys serve even less of a purpose then women in this case.
My guess is that the freinds you have now are hard to get off the coach and turn off their playstation's right ? Mine are (or were) also ..the solution i started focusing on my schoolwork and getting laid and only hung out with them if both parties had free time and i had nothing better to do.
Plus most younger guys are already used to their little circle of freinds at this time and don't look for new ones.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I agree with the above. Do things you enjoy, and you'll end up meeting people that do the same things. I like to Mountain Bike. I've met a few guys out on the trails. Even one female.
Same with the gym, running, etc... (I'm thinking of joining a running club. There's more women than men there. It's a little cold right now, though...)
I don't have too many guy friends. Like what was said above. They all seem to be too competetive when it comes to women.
Just remember, it up to you. You have to get out of the house and seek other people out. They aren't going to come to you...
The biggest thing I learnt on this site is thats its your own damn fault. You want friends? You do what it takes to get them. Go to a sports bar and talk to the guys about the local team etc.
Do something interesting so that your current "friends" want to hang out with you. Ask them if they want to go do X. They say no. Then you actually go and do X. Take pictures. Make X fun. Take pics of all the cute girls at X. Make a game of it.
But trust me. You 100% control the outcome when large groups are concerned. IE you want guy friends that is easy as long as you willing to be friends with the guys willing to be friends with you.
Kinda like girls...