No Friends

[Saine]

Hey this is the first time I ever asked for help on relationship... well NOT exactly relationship but just help me out.

A gal I like been going out with me for weeks. Well of course we get closer and stuff.

Now yesterday she said "so Saine, could I meet some of your friends?" I am great with ladies but the problem is, I don't have any friends?!
I have trouble making friends... -_-

What should I do and what would you guys do in my shoe?

Thanks.

 

[GingerbreadMan]

You should just kill yourself. You have no friends? How the hell is that even possible?

If you can not make a guy want to hang out with you, how the hell are you going to make a girl want to hang out with you?

Just kill yourself. It is simply more efficient.

 

[khanboy]

"Being a man is a lonely business."

 

[M2k961]

Just tell her you can't stand the losers you're surrounded with, and don't have any interest in them. I feel the same way, but I still have friends. Use it in a C + F way perhaps.

 

[red sky30]

gingeman- thats a stupid post man, no humour whatsoever.


I've got few friends also, but tons of aquantances, and its all good. I've found that if you're completley comfortable in your own body and mind people will come to you.

The more time i spend alone, the more pumped I am for talkign to peeps.

 

[red sky30]

what is C + F ??

 

[iqqi]

how come you don't have any friends?

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by iqqi
how come you don't have any friends?

Because I'm a busy man.

Really, to the rest of you. Just because other lonely guys do nothing and have no life doesn't mean all lonely guys have no life.

I actually do a lot of things and girls is one of them. Getting girls is no problem. But now finding friend is a problem because we do different things. Different hobbies and activities.

 

[M2k961]

what is C + F ??

****y and Funny.

 

[M2k961]

Oh, well if that's the case, explain it to her like you explained it here...

C'MON NOW.

 

[sql]

saine,

khan and m2k have the right idea. there can be plenty of legit reasons why you may not consider you have many friends. i think what would be best would be to say up front that since you are pretty busy, you dont really have time to socialize as you would like. just be up front and dont sound like you're making an excuse. "this is how things are and you better like it".

if you move often, are a workaholic, or just stay in the house all day, it can be tough meeting new people. if you just dont have time in your schedule, and you want more acquaintances, make time, and join a local sports league or health club. thats prime real estate for meeting up with people who a) take care of their bodies and 2) have some form of discipline.

just dont ever think about changing yourself to "fit" what you imagine this girl or any girl is looking for. if she dumps you coz you dont have time to make the friends she wants, then shes not worth it.

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by sql
saine,

khan and m2k have the right idea. there can be plenty of legit reasons why you may not consider you have many friends. i think what would be best would be to say up front that since you are pretty busy, you dont really have time to socialize as you would like. just be up front and dont sound like you're making an excuse. "this is how things are and you better like it".

if you move often, are a workaholic, or just stay in the house all day, it can be tough meeting new people. if you just dont have time in your schedule, and you want more acquaintances, make time, and join a local sports league or health club. thats prime real estate for meeting up with people who a) take care of their bodies and 2) have some form of discipline.

just dont ever think about changing yourself to "fit" what you imagine this girl or any girl is looking for. if she dumps you coz you dont have time to make the friends she wants, then shes not worth it.

Excellent! Great response guys, thanks! Especially to you sql.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

you already answered your question

 

[IrReSiStIbLe]

Meh, Don't worry bout it, saine, buddy. You seem like a great person and regardless of whether you have friends or not i'm 99.9% sure she wouldnt give a f*ck.

sql gave you some valuable advice and it's good to see that you are at least tackling the problem with the right attitude

Take it easy bro,

IrReSiStIbLe.

 

[Walden]

Man get some friends. It's important, make it important to you. You need to cultivate and nourish those relationships. I have a lot of ppl I'm close to that would have just drifted out of my life if I didn't take the time to stay in contact with them, and they're among the key treasures that make this life worthwhile.

Incidentally who asked what C+F is? <sound of Walden reaching for his Newbie-asking-what-C+F-is-shotgun>.

 

[squirrels]

I dunno what it is, but women seem to take comfort in a guy having friends...it shows that the guy isn't just some loner psycho running aroudn in a white van with ball-gags and fishhooks...he's got people around him who like him and will vouch for him.

That's one of the reason it works so well when you're introduced to a girl by a mutual friend...or you're at a party that she's at (by virtue of you being invited, you're automatically considered 'liked').

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro
you already answered your question

But I didn't know the answer.

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by Walden
Man get some friends. It's important, make it important to you. You need to cultivate and nourish those relationships. I have a lot of ppl I'm close to that would have just drifted out of my life if I didn't take the time to stay in contact with them, and they're among the key treasures that make this life worthwhile.

Incidentally who asked what C+F is? <sound of Walden reaching for his Newbie-asking-what-C+F-is-shotgun>.

Heh I will do when I have time. A gym is an idea.

What is that shotgun doing?! If it's for the newbie, ok... if it's because you want the money, I'LL GIVE IT TO YOU BY FRIDAY, MY PAYCHECK AIN'T HERE YET!

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by squirrels
I dunno what it is, but women seem to take comfort in a guy having friends...it shows that the guy isn't just some loner psycho running aroudn in a white van with ball-gags and fishhooks...he's got people around him who like him and will vouch for him.

That's one of the reason it works so well when you're introduced to a girl by a mutual friend...or you're at a party that she's at (by virtue of you being invited, you're automatically considered 'liked').

Lol, truth is, women are ****-shallow-as-****.

 

[Saine]

Originally posted by IrReSiStIbLe
Meh, Don't worry bout it, saine, buddy. You seem like a great person and regardless of whether you have friends or not i'm 99.9% sure she wouldnt give a f*ck.

sql gave you some valuable advice and it's good to see that you are at least tackling the problem with the right attitude

Take it easy bro,

IrReSiStIbLe.

Heh thanks bro, I'll take it as easy as I can. Really, women isn't any problem. I used to look at women as my priority, now it's me that's the priority. w00t.