No Friends?

[ProDJ26]

So it seems to me the last couple of weeks if I asked someone to hangout (girls or guys) they all have given me the same excuse. They have NO TIME. Same for women. Whenever I try and make plans they give me the excuse of TOO BUSY. And the same goes for emails. Contacted some old people I know and they to have given me the No Time, Too Busy, etc.
At this point Im kind of frustrated and came so close to telling this one chick straight up that theres no such thing as having time people make time for things and people that they want.....

Im beginning to think that I really dont have any true friends. Not to mention the only time people call or want me is for their own benefits. (Usually thru favors)

I did feel kinda of sorry for myself but now I dont even care. Its like Im living in a world of my own. :kick:

I mean is everyone really THAT busy these days??? I wondered if I stimulated the economy if people would have time. Maybe I should pull a Christian Bale from Batman Beguns and dissappear for 7 years lol.

Has this happened to anyone else? The world is always to busy or never has time?

 

[Raikojo17]

Yea man, i feel you. it can be frustrating sometimes when it seems that everyone and their mother is too busy to hang out when you want to. When it seems like they only hang out when it's convenient for them and blow you off whenever you ask.

but don't let it get to you. they have lives as well. It happens. have you ever blown your friends off? I have, for many different reasons. I feel bad, but sometimes i do have other things i want to do other than hang out with them all day.

They are your real friends bro. It's just that people do get really busy sometimes, and when they stop they are too tired to want to go running around with friends all night, take it from someone who feels this way alot lol

sometimes, the last thing i want to do is worry about driving all the way somewhere after work to meet up with so and so for a night out. I just wanna go home and fall in bed

but other times, i'd be glad to hang out

it's just life. Keep your head up and enjoy it. Make use of your alone time, enjoy it,because it's rather refreshing, and some people would kill for it. Have things that YOU could be doing as well. like another poster said but with a twist, if you keep things going in your life, then you won't worry about other people not having time for you.

Don't worry about your friends, they won't be busy forever. they'll come around

 

[darkstarrr]

Im beginning to think that I really dont have any true friends. Not to mention the only time people call or want me is for their own benefits. (Usually thru favors)

I did feel kinda of sorry for myself but now I dont even care. Its like Im living in a world of my own.

yo. i know exactly what you are talking about because i have met a ton of people in my time and have only within the last couple years realized how many of them weren't true friends and instead they were more so acquantances. like i was in their fvcking lives as a chaperone or entertainment. because some were lonely and had noone else to hang out with but then when I was lonely then no they weren't fvcking around. that's the kind of sh1t that pisses me off bro and i feel you.

some people will call you and expect you to hear their sob stories and listen. they will expect you to spend time with them because their lives are boring. but then something happens and you need someone to confide in or talk to but they are quick with their answers and short with their time. perhaps nothing "happened" and heck you just want to hang out and see a familiar face and have a few laughs.

this is why it is so important to remain close with whatever family you have. the more people you meet and the more social interactions you have (like spinning plates) the less it is going to matter when people either flake on you or don't have "time" to hang out or talk to or see you. AND you are also going to learn who the real people are in your life. the ones you can count on.

don't worry you have met some cool cats here man. what i would recommend, which is what i do now, is to frequent 3 different places each and every week. the cute girl working at barnes and noble who begins to recognize you to the point where you acknowldge each other with a warm smile-->leads to convo etc, for example. just get out get out get out even if it is by yourself and you are going to the pet store to look at the fish. you never know where you will meet new people and sometimes friends can be like money because even if they are aqcuantances, if you have some you can meet many more people through them.

good luck!

 

[Aragon034]

yo. i know exactly what you are talking about because i have met a ton of people in my time and have only within the last couple years realized how many of them weren't true friends and instead they were more so acquantances. like i was in their fvcking lives as a chaperone or entertainment. because some were lonely and had noone else to hang out with but then when I was lonely then no they weren't fvcking around. that's the kind of sh1t that pisses me off bro and i feel you.

some people will call you and expect you to hear their sob stories and listen. they will expect you to spend time with them because their lives are boring. but then something happens and you need someone to confide in or talk to but they are quick with their answers and short with their time. perhaps nothing "happened" and heck you just want to hang out and see a familiar face and have a few laughs.

this is why it is so important to remain close with whatever family you have. the more people you meet and the more social interactions you have (like spinning plates) the less it is going to matter when people either flake on you or don't have "time" to hang out or talk to or see you. AND you are also going to learn who the real people are in your life. the ones you can count on.

don't worry you have met some cool cats here man. what i would recommend, which is what i do now, is to frequent 3 different places each and every week. the cute girl working at barnes and noble who begins to recognize you to the point where you acknowldge each other with a warm smile-->leads to convo etc, for example. just get out get out get out even if it is by yourself and you are going to the pet store to look at the fish. you never know where you will meet new people and sometimes friends can be like money because even if they are aqcuantances, if you have some you can meet many more people through them.

good luck!

I agree with most of what you're saying there. Though i'm a little harsher with my words.

If they flake, i treat it the same way i do with chicks, if they flake 2+ times i'm not going to bother with them anymore, since they obviously can't bother with me. I've gotten tons of calls from people who say stuff like "Hey man, where you been?" or something to that end. they realize that i was adding something to their lives and miss it.

About teh song in your Sig. Awesome, i love Daniel Kandi's stuff (yes i know it's evbointh but it's a DK remix)

Look up Sunny Lax, Nitrous Oxide, and Adam Nickey for stuff similar to that

 

[Raikojo17]

At this point Im kind of frustrated and came so close to telling this one chick straight up that theres no such thing as having time people make time for things and people that they want.....

Not exactly true. Sometimes you really do not have time or patience to hang out when you have work to do.

not saying they can't make time, but you never want to make a friend choose between you and work. lol