Anyone listen to the Doc Love show? I'm new to all of Doc Love's advice. He recommends NOT taking a woman out on Fridays or Saturdays unless she's your exclusive girlfriend. I like that rule. I think it's good but can anyone explain what effect this will have on a woman if you have no contact with her on those days completely?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
No Fridays or Saturdays
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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greg60 said:
If the woman is cool and has her own life, it won't have any impact. She might wonder a bit about what you're up to, but in the beginning stages, it's good to have that mystery. Actually, in every stage, it's good to have some mystery.
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I assume the reason behind this is to show her that you have a life and are busy on the weekend nights. And to make her wonder what you're up to, and make yourself look higher value in the process.
I suppose that makes some sense on some level. Of course you run the risk that she will meet some other dude that she likes better while she's out on the weekend nights herself. But according to pickup dogma, you're not allowed to care if you keep her or not ("no outcome dependency"), so who cares anyway, right?
I suppose it sounds like a good idea, especially early on in a relationship or wahtever it is. But honestly, I'm not big on playing a lot of games trying to make her think I'm a big deal. Seems kind of like qualifying myself to her in a way. If I want to go out with her on a Friday night, chances are I will do it and not worry about what "Doc Love" says.
I suppose that makes some sense on some level. Of course you run the risk that she will meet some other dude that she likes better while she's out on the weekend nights herself. But according to pickup dogma, you're not allowed to care if you keep her or not ("no outcome dependency"), so who cares anyway, right?
I suppose it sounds like a good idea, especially early on in a relationship or wahtever it is. But honestly, I'm not big on playing a lot of games trying to make her think I'm a big deal. Seems kind of like qualifying myself to her in a way. If I want to go out with her on a Friday night, chances are I will do it and not worry about what "Doc Love" says.
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A little outdated, now that fewer people work "normal" hours, but I do find it is easier early on to get a girl out on a Tuesday or something, since there is less "competition." I wouldn't worry about "disappearing" on weekends to come across as high value, though--leave the games to the women.
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Dear Greg,
Look accepted wisdom is that you take the Girl you are happiest with out on the weekend.....if your Bird is happy with weekends,it means,she is Married,or you are just a plate...Plates spinning plates....But one ruse that works for me is in my Defense Industry Role (Hush-Hush)the married guys won't take the weekend Night Shifts so it is left to poor Bvuggar Me....You do understand Don't you Darling?
Look accepted wisdom is that you take the Girl you are happiest with out on the weekend.....if your Bird is happy with weekends,it means,she is Married,or you are just a plate...Plates spinning plates....But one ruse that works for me is in my Defense Industry Role (Hush-Hush)the married guys won't take the weekend Night Shifts so it is left to poor Bvuggar Me....You do understand Don't you Darling?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I mostly don't do fri/sat because there are things i'd rather be doing those nights than hanging out with some chick.
Even if that's just sitting at home doing my own thing.
It's not so much of a gamemanship thing where she has to "earn" the weekends, but really she does have to earn the weekends by just making me want to see her those days. She has to make me want to see her rather than do other things. I really don't see women on Thursdays either.
If there's some side effect of her imagination or whatever, that's just an extra bonus.
Even if that's just sitting at home doing my own thing.
It's not so much of a gamemanship thing where she has to "earn" the weekends, but really she does have to earn the weekends by just making me want to see her those days. She has to make me want to see her rather than do other things. I really don't see women on Thursdays either.
If there's some side effect of her imagination or whatever, that's just an extra bonus.