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No Fapping. Why it rocks

gravityeyelids

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TL;DR: Stop fapping and you will go after more poon, and get more. As well as have better sex. Install a parental control program, set it to only block porn and make your roommate set the password (which you don't know)

Now I know there's those that love fapping and scoff at each of these threads when they come up. "Oh i don't need to stop, I still go out and get *****, i still **** like a champ even when i fap all the time, blah blah"

This is not for you. This is for men who are apathetic, tired, lazy, never feel like approaching girls or pursuing the lay. This is also for those who have sexual problems....erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculations, etc.

STOP FAPPING. IT WILL IMPROVE YOUR GAME. It's hard to be driven when you don't NEED to get off. But if you stop relying on internet porn to get off and seek out women to do it, you WILL get more *****. You will be starving, not just hungry.

I used to have problems getting it up. There was nothing physically wrong, i just didn't have the confidence, and I never felt horny enough. I tried all these supplements, changing my diet, working out everyy day, etc. But I WAS STILL PLAYING WITH MYSELF all the time. I cut that out and pretty soon, my problem was not a problem.

I cut down to only looking at porn on sundays, that way I was always rearing to go everyweekend. But now, i'm trying to eliminate it all together. I installed a parental control program, set it to block porn and nudity, and made my roommate set a password I didn't know. I'm constantly on the lookout for women and much more confident.

Not only will not fapping help you with women, but you will be much more aggressive and alpha in front of other men. I am never afraid to look other guys (even big guys) directly in the eye and hold it now, and my body language is much stronger. I no longer mumble or look at the ground, i hold my head ****ing high and in the words of tyler durden (the character not the PUA): "I got right up in everyone's hostile little faces" Try It and tell me you dont feel like the ****ing man.
 

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congrats but I would suggest cutting porn all together.. I am glad that I don't have the need or feel any urges to watch it eventhough sometimes Im on the computer for hours at a time. its really a nice feeling, and also when I feel horny I don't feel like masterbating but instead feel like hitting up a plate to get some..

keep at it man.. stick with it I have experience the same results.
 

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gravityeyelids said:
STOP FAPPING. IT WILL IMPROVE YOUR GAME. It's hard to be driven when you don't NEED to get off. But if you stop relying on internet porn to get off and seek out women to do it, you WILL get more *****. You will be starving, not just hungry.
I know I've taken some crap from certain forum members for suggesting that sex is a need. But I digress.

I believe that abstaining from masturbation and porn is a good idea, generally speaking (I call it holding your chi). But I think you've hit on why it is that some guys get good results from not fapping, while for others it doesn't seem to help.

When you reach a point where you NEED to get off, this can affect people differently. For some, like yourself, this becomes a powerful motivating force. Others might see that urgency manifest itself as dependence on outcome. You've put yourself into a situation where you are dependent on a woman to release your tension.
 

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A few years ago I was in the hospital and could not fap for 2 weeks. I do remember getting all excited and getting a boner from every 40 year old nurse that came in.
 

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Yeah, this is an awesome idea. But I have a major problem with it.
(Nothing against you, gravity) I set up K9 Web Protection on my computer,
(great program btw) but the h0rny animal part of my brain is a mutherfvcking
h@cker!!!! I've covered just about every loophole now, but it seems I have
resort to having a family member hide my OS installation disk...
Anyway.... @ zekko, yes, absurd levels of h0rnyness does affect people
differently, but I believe this is because it reveals underlying issues with ones
inner game; if being super h0rny makes you need a woman,
then that's something that's already there and needs to be worked on.
 

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The way I finally got over porn was to observe how I felt afterwards. I'm convinced that porn is a severe depressant and it is very hard to make that corelation between porn and depression because of certain neurotransmitters that are released.

If anyone wants to rid yourself of porn, take an honest look at how you regard yourself immediately after.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
The way I finally got over porn was to observe how I felt afterwards. I'm convinced that porn is a severe depressant and it is very hard to make that corelation between porn and depression because of certain neurotransmitters that are released.

If anyone wants to rid yourself of porn, take an honest look at how you regard yourself immediately after.
+1:up:
 

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Plus one for the no fap club here. I am much more aggressive, and let's be honest. It's lame watching other people fvck, when you could be out in club hustling and get fVcked yourself.

However, if you have to, fap sans porn. Gotta do it every now and then if your not gettin' laid that often for prostate health.
 

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I did the 90 day challenge, don't know why I went back to fapping because now I don't even enjoy it.

I been going a week so far without no fapping, and I think I'm going to continue to do this for the rest of my life.

motherf*ck porn.
 

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HedoRick said:
let's be honest. It's lame watching other people fvck, when you could be out in club hustling and get fVcked yourself.

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those were my exact thoughts the last time I watched it.
 

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Hmm I don't have that sense of ... bad feeling.. after porn. Whatever that might be. I feel a sense of relaxation and clarity. Granted, it does make me want sex with real women less.

I try to time it right. If I'm going to be hanging out with a chick tomorrow night, I'll abstain for a day or so. If I've got no dates set up, I'll do it no problem.

Keep in mind that studies have shown that regular ejaculation is good for men. If you don't have any women in your life you really should be rubbing one out every couple of days.

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/prostatehealth/a/ejaculate_ptate.htm
 

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Anyone any ideas on fapping and testosterone levels?
Some research states it doesnt raise test levels others say it does indeed.
Anyone not/less fapping notice any hardcore muscle gains?
 

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good work man. i have done the same thing! i know my password. but i still set it up.. i haven't look at " porn" or fapped in 4 days witch is like a record for me!

gunna see how long i can last. this weekend in the club should be interesting. last time i didn't fap for like a week i got a make out in the club. so should be good
 

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Mauser96 said:
The no fap challenge. Hmmm.....everyone talks about how it will make you more aggressive and pursue women/numbers. Do they mention it might make you a supplicating biotch because you haven't had any for a while? So you are buying drinks for every cvm dump you pass by?

Just a thought.
its not suppose to make a desperate loser or a beta.. it doesn't affect me at all like this.. idk about other though
 

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No fapping is awesome, one thing that is about to become evident is that a high proportion of young men are developing various forms of erectile dysfunction due to internet porn, we are very much onto something here, not exactly a subject to bring up in mainstream company, I am very sure we will start hearing more about the problem of porn addiction amongst young men, in the media.
 

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Again I believe this is an issue that can't be so easily boiled down to a single way for any single person. Sexuality is a wide gradient and people's psychological and cultural upbringings all effect their relationship to sex and self-pleasure. For example, if you were raised in a heavily christian home the notion of self-touch might even be viewed in line with an 'evil' impulse.

Sexual perception is partially biological but also heavily cultural. In America we're soaked in sex and violence. That's the sweet brine that makes up most of our sitcoms, movies and even segments on our 'news' such as CNN or Fox. Even our politicians (Sarah Palin) sell us their sexuality.

In America we use Botox and Breast Implants instead of foot binding or ear-lobe stretching. This is the suite of physical modification tools of the Modern 'Merica. Fvck Yeah.

We have to ask ourselves, where does gratification truly lie? Most of those whom sell us sex are selling us their slot on the visual network and reaping their monies from advertising dollars. Selling us sex is in their be$t intere$t. Or, it floods production studios or widget manufacturers with ca$h flow (which in many large corporations is concentrated at the top).

The sexual saturation of America makes Cents. Get it? The question of if it is in our best psychological interest, is one not asked in Marketing rooms and Fiscal Analysis Sessions.

"We'll make millions"

"Hang on, let's check with a psychologist first and make sure we don't hurt 'Merica".

One might ask, is it even chosen by us? Or is it rather forced upon us by Marketing Majors who graduated and moved on become Master Manipulators of human emotion and impulse. Sex sells, and it does.

Some people are more introverted or extroverted about sex, some people are more 'free spirited' while others are very reserved.

Likely there are deep roots of either family-values, religions-values, or something similar rooted in their psychology. Or sometimes sexual expression can be rebellion.

But what we find sexy, our perception, is heavily effected by environment. This is interesting to try and understand as it can give us insights into the human mind and the perception of sexual value.

One interesting example is Nepal. These people have been isolated in the mountains, cut-off from western culture. Women there have no plastic surgery or boob jobs or botox, men don't likely have access to a weight room. They have continued on for hundreds of years living a very spiritual community-based lifestyle of support. There are plenty of people and thus people are still having sex, but their value sets in regards to sex, attraction, sexuality and the like is different than that which we are steep within in our culture.

I am not arguing which is right or wrong for anyone, nor am I reflecting my support for either. But I am saying it is of value to think more deeply than in terms of 'masturbation is bad', 'masturbation is good' or 'porn is bad' and 'porn is good', but instead try and see it within the context of our particular culture, our environment, with the current set of tools provided by our technology, and of course compounded by the very vast diversity in human sexuality itself. And like all beings, some are more self-destructive in life than others, irregardless of the substance, habit or object. Which of course too ties directly into pornography.

I believe this exploration can also inform us a great deal about the pursuit of happiness -- and what exactly that is in one's personal relationship to sex, and how in our material-rich culture driven on consumer-spending, how this relationship might be skewed not always for our well-being.

'Merica. **** Yeah!
 

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I used an app called habitstreak to see how much I was actually using porn. It was kind of a surprise every few days even when I wanted to stop. That made me decide to quit, and I'm now at 51 days.
I can confirm I do notice a difference, and just as important so do the women in my life.
 

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Zarky said:
Hmm I don't have that sense of ... bad feeling.. after porn. Whatever that might be. I feel a sense of relaxation and clarity. Granted, it does make me want sex with real women less.

I try to time it right. If I'm going to be hanging out with a chick tomorrow night, I'll abstain for a day or so. If I've got no dates set up, I'll do it no problem.

Keep in mind that studies have shown that regular ejaculation is good for men. If you don't have any women in your life you really should be rubbing one out every couple of days.

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/prostatehealth/a/ejaculate_ptate.htm
^^Agree 110%
 

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It just killed my sex drive...I'd get to the point where it'd be like a drug. It'd feel amazing, but right after I felt terrible about myself. I felt pathetic and I'd have this anxiety that my sex drive would be dead for a few days so I wouldn't even try for a lay if I had jerked off recently because I'd be scared I wouldn't be able to perform, etc., etc.
 

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gravityeyelids said:
It just killed my sex drive...I'd get to the point where it'd be like a drug. It'd feel amazing, but right after I felt terrible about myself. I felt pathetic and I'd have this anxiety that my sex drive would be dead for a few days so I wouldn't even try for a lay if I had jerked off recently because I'd be scared I wouldn't be able to perform, etc., etc.
I have felt that way before too, I guess it was better than banging some chick I'd regret later on, but I hear you dude. It probably is healthy to keep self-pleasure to moderation and not let it become a destructive habit and drain all of your drive away...

Sometimes though it is better than stewing in sexual aggression and frustration!

I also have heard that for men, the more that you ejaculate the less risk you have for prostate cancer. Some study cited that men who do not ejaculate are more at risk to develop prostate problems..AKA we need to clear our pipes for our health! LOL
 
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