No fap challenge to get through a break up ( It works )

[John Constantine]

Well I recently broke up with a girl that has driven me crazy. I loved her so much that I became a total beta, contacting her non stop after she dumped me. Told her I was gonna change for her blabla Haven't been able to go no contact for more than 6 days as I've relapse into drinking when I'm in pain.. Contacting her saying that I was gonna beat that new guys and that she's a delusional and easy hb5 hoe.. Now I regret for having not discovered the no fap challenge before.. I'm on day 7 of no fap right now and every thing is easier, I'm moving on faster than ever, I'm able to filter my negative toughts and rationalize how crazy and unworthy of me she was. Dont get me wrong I still miss her but now I can handle it much much easier. Give it a try guys, its working for me ! you can check the nofap website, it's very helpful.

Peace

 

[resilient]

Nofap helps you gain control over impulses. Mind over matter.

In reading your post, I thought of a few suggestions that may help you speed up your recovery from the breakup:

1) Journal to introspect why you stopped leading in the relationship (total beta as it were). Really sit and think: what specific points in time did you compromise your values or decision-making when you knew in your gut would have been the right thing to say or do to lead better as a man? This cognitive-behavioral exercise will help you lead next time when you find a better partner that respects your inner game.

2) Work on self-control to not relapse into drinking with other positive habits. Drink liquids and foods that boost your mood instead of vices that are agents of depressants. Get eight hours of quality sleep if you haven't...

3) Learn emotional intelligence. That way you become self-aware of your feelings like the negative thoughts, rationalizations. If she says or did something to set you off zero in on that and discover how you could have acted cool, calm, and collected -- so she wouldn't get a rise out of you.

When you have thought some things through, take deep breaths and let it all go.

Keep hitting the gym, it helps a ton.

 

[John Constantine]

I already have an over developped emotional intelligence and this is why I'm always overthinking the relationship. Thats what my psy said. I have been alone & isolated with my toughts for a very long period so I've developped it. I don't like it because you feel even more alone when you're different. People tend to have a very low emotional intelligence and act instinctively. I would love to do that too. well this being said I've started reading self improvement books, I've started concentration meditation, monk mode and no fap + no alcool + no contact for 30 days as having a goal is helping throught the process. I feel 10x times better, meditation is helping me living the present day without letting my negative emotions/thoughts taking over and if If I think about her, it's not a really big deal anymore and I can control my emotions to think about something else and rationalize how I'm better than being treated like dog ****. No fap is helping a lot for it. Monk mode is to improve myself to never, ever live the same thing again by improving my inner self and assimilating the red pill.