No cuddling after sex means FWB

[Pandora]

This is just something I noticed. If a girl does not want anything more than sex with you she will not respond to cuddling after sex. I have noticed that when a girl wants to be mentally closed off her body language will show it after sex. This is regardless of if the sex was good or not. That is her way of mentally keeping you as the walking dildo and nothing more. She is afraid to bond with you. Even though she just let you into her womb and her mouth, her guard is still up. It used to mean that sex was a letting down of her guard. Not anymore. Girls have guarded sex all the time.

This should clue you in on how to proceed with her. If she doesn't cuddle after sex then do not pursue anything with her. Do not text her afterwards. Let her hit you up. She just wants you to stay in the sex category. I don't know if any of you guys noticed the same thing.

 

[ubercat]

Kind of depends on how fast it happened. If she got drunk and horny on the first date having a guy who's basically a stranger cuddle up to her is going to freak her out.

3 or 4 dates in she should be more open. If she's not I agree with your analysis.

 

[AJ84]

I can see how that would bother a guy who was looking for more than casual sex with a girl, maybe a relationship, but for guys who aren't I imagine this works in their favour. Less complication and dealing with her getting emotionally attached if he doesn't want that.

What's wrong with no fuss FWB arrangements, seems like a lot of guys here aim for stuff like this.

There are women out there who, like guys, just want to have sex and nothing more. As there are guys who also just want sex, this is the perfect situation for both. It's 2018.

 

[Pandora]

Kind of depends on how fast it happened. If she got drunk and horny on the first date having a guy who's basically a stranger cuddle up to her is going to freak her out.

Yeh you are right bro. But its like she let a stranger into her body yet cuddling is off limits? Its ironic ya know. This shows that they really shouldn't be ****ing guys that they don't know. I remember when PUA's and my dad would tell me after you have sex with a woman the power shifts in your favor. Nope. Early PUA teachings and fatherly advice no longer apply to this level of *****dom we see today.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Still waiting for a girl that just let me sleep right after..all they do is running after me in the bed or complaining if I turn away

 

[btownbuck2012]

I would say that's more a girl with EXTREME issues regarding intimacy/sex as opposed to it meaning she just wants a FB type of thing.

 

[Fruitbat]

my GFs seem to enjoy cuddling over the sex.

i'll show myself out....

 

[ubercat]

Egads the bat signal still shines. So I m curious @Fruitbat did she can calm down and set like concrete on you after the 3 month ish mark as predicted?

 

[Fruitbat]

Egads the bat signal still shines. So I m curious @Fruitbat did she can calm down and set like concrete on you after the 3 month ish mark as predicted?

Yep. Still shining. Better than ever mate,trust you are similar?

Yes the 3 month part was tough - like a rule of the universe that shyt testing peaks at that point I think you said!

5 months in. Her folks have invited me all expenses paid to visit them (although I will be naturally popping a G though the tills at duty-free for her 1,089 relatives (Still cheaper than paying my own flights and accomodation)

So, now I am past the "wow - she's hot and 11 years younger" bit I think I am thinking clearly. No crazy, least none detectable. She's a really nice, family orientated girl...even now I am not enraptured I still feel this is a good thing. Downsides are she doesn't really drink, smoke and doesn't like me doing so. My drinking is our main issue., to be fair she is right, I have been drinking a lot recently.

Anyhow,. she is moving in here when her flatmate goes home. Will have to wife it by the end of the year otherwise she is going home. Life is risk and obviously the fear she will screw me is there, but no more, in fact less so, than an English girl. They don't seem to hot on single mom life.

Really glad, sgainst the odds this appears to be working out, hence I haven't been here.

 

[Pandora]

my GFs seem to enjoy cuddling over the sex.

i'll show myself out....

Lol the borderline chick that I dated also enjoyed cuddling more than sex. It did not have anything to do with the quality of the sex. Its just that some girls are desensitized to sex. Sex to a borderline slut is a mechanical act. They dissociate from it. True intimacy for many women is cuddling as counter intuitive as it sounds. This is why you will notice many pornstars don't like to kiss the male actor. They will move their head away when he tries to kiss them but yet she will let him stick it in her a**. The borderline would lay there after sex as we are cuddling and I was playing with her hair and she would say " this is better than sex". I was like "da fuq".

 

[Fruitbat]

Lol the borderline chick that I dated also enjoyed cuddling more than sex. It did not have anything to do with the quality of the sex. Its just that some girls are desensitized to sex. Sex to a borderline slut is a mechanical act. They dissociate from it. True intimacy for many women is cuddling as counter intuitive as it sounds. This is why you will notice many pornstars don't like to kiss the male actor. They will move their head away when he tries to kiss them but yet she will let him stick it in her a**. The borderline would lay there after sex as we are cuddling and I was playing with her hair and she would say " this is better than sex". I was like "da fuq".

Big shocker here. As I man, I enjoy it too. Not so much the cuddling. the intamacy. The way you feel embracing the weaker sex. makes me feel great.

Yes, I have heard (!) hookers will take a load on their face and refuse to kiss.

When I am single, I think that I miss the sex. Got to be honest, unless it's bonkers dirty porn sex, sex is a fairly mechanical act to me too. I actuallly miss the long hair draped over my pillow, the weird yet cool selection of objects that appear in my bathroom, that hint of perfume on the sheets when she's gone. There is a lot more to enjoying a woman than sticking it in her a$$ (howevrer, I love that also!)

 

[ubercat]

@Pandora sorry for hijacking your thread
We see so many clowns here who just won't take the advice I think it's really important to highlight the success stories.

@Fruitbat good work bro. It was all you we just provided a little perspective. Mate you wouldn't exactly be the world's only hard drinking and smoking sales guy it's understandable but you are getting to the age where it's gone from fun and stress relief to being a blocker.

Spend a bit of time with your girl getting the right gifts for her family. But also make sure you tell her that you want to see a bit of her beautiful country. That gives you a chance to escape and do the touristy thing.

Asian girls are very good at looking after their men and take pride in it. So any destructive habits definitely will remain contentious. I was a social smoker for 20 years. The things I found worked for me were avoiding the trigger situations. So for example if your morning routine is to get up and smoke make yourself a takeaway coffee and take that for a walk instead. And replacing with good habits. So I thoroughly suggest sports especially something that gets the heart rate going. How did your badminton go? Is there any chance of making that on the regular?

Hey I might be in England next year. PM me if your up for a pint.

 

[Fruitbat]

@Pandora sorry for hijacking your thread
We see so many clowns here who just won't take the advice I think it's really important to highlight the success stories.

@Fruitbat good work bro. It was all you we just provided a little perspective. Mate you wouldn't exactly be the world's only hard drinking and smoking sales guy it's understandable but you are getting to the age where it's gone from fun and stress relief to being a blocker.

Spend a bit of time with your girl getting the right gifts for her family. But also make sure you tell her that you want to see a bit of her beautiful country. That gives you a chance to escape and do the touristy thing.

Asian girls are very good at looking after their men and take pride in it. So any destructive habits definitely will remain contentious. I was a social smoker for 20 years. The things I found worked for me were avoiding the trigger situations. So for example if your morning routine is to get up and smoke make yourself a takeaway coffee and take that for a walk instead. And replacing with good habits. So I thoroughly suggest sports especially something that gets the heart rate going. How did your badminton go? Is there any chance of making that on the regular?

Hey I might be in England next year. PM me if your up for a pint.

Thanks for the advice. I am vaping now but I think sometimes, I have it so easy with this chick, I am taking the p1ss and returning to bad habits. Pushing boundaries subconsciously?

 

[ubercat]

Vaping is good. Knew a couple of guys at my last work who used vaping to get off and it seemed to be an easier ride. Sounds like you've got it all in hand and you know what you need to do.