"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My buddy has a question he asked me some advice on and I thought you all would be a valuable resource.

He has a girl he's really interested in f-closing, but she's leaving for Scottland in less than 2 weeks and so it needs to happen soon. He asked her to go to the zoo with him tomorrow and she's being really sketchy and hasn't given an answer yet (which I would say is a bad sign). He's got another girl who's so in to him she's willing to take off work to spend time with him, but he's not so interested in her. My first thought was that he should just ditch the girl he's interested in and spend time with the girl he's not interested in to send the girl he is interested in a message. But, since she's leaving so quickly, I don't know if that's the best game plan.

Would you guys no contact her for the rest of today?

Send her a text to the effect of "tik tok tik tok honey, the clock is ticking and i don't hear from you soon, i won't have time for you anymore".

Send a different text all together?

Or just make plans with the other girl?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Might have to waive the white flag there. I would not send that text, or any other text. If she's not interested, that text will go over horribly. If she is interested, it will happen without needing to send that.

He doesn't need to make plans with that other girl if hes not interested in her, though. If Scotland girl doesn't like him that way, she won't get jealous by it. He would just be wasting his time at the zoo with someone he doesn't want to be with.

How long will this girl be in Scotland? Is she moving there or something?
 
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PDubb75 said:
Might have to waive the white flag there. I would not send that text, or any other text. If she's not interested, that text will go over horribly. If she is interested, it will happen without needing to send that.

He doesn't need to make plans with that other girl if hes not interested in her, though. If Scotland girl doesn't like him that way, she won't get jealous by it. He would just be wasting his time at the zoo with someone he doesn't want to be with.

How long will this girl be in Scotland? Is she moving there or something?
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Good words. You're right.

And she is moving there. So this is the last leg of the journey for him.
 
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