"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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No contact Yes?

OamImrsNemo

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So I keep reading on how everyonce in a while when youve been seeing a chick you should throw the no contact ball at her....Soooooo Chick just called me and then texted me wanting me to go out tonight... I have not talked to her since day before yesterday.. should I ignore her ton or just be busy?..Ive been seein her for about a month btw
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Depends.

If she is already high interest and/or you think you can get at least a make-out from seeing her tonight, then go.

If you are in the friends zone or fairly certain that she does not like you sexually then you can play the no contact/aloof/busy card and see how she reacts. If she questions you just say you have been busy recently.
 

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Yeah she called a second time so I finally answered then she was like are you okay?! I was like yea? why? oo I was just making sure..

Her:You wanna come out to eat with me my sister and her boy toy
Me: naw Im tired I had a busy day.
Her: are you sure you should think about it
Me: naw what you doin tom night?
Her: o im hangin out with one of my friends
Me: sweet well have fun
Her: so you comin?
Me: nope going to bed but you all have fun!

then her sister texts me like 20 mins later

Sis:you should really come
Me: Im trying to go to bed
sis: well i have to get up at 6 am
Me: well I had an extremely busy day and want to go to bed
sis: whatev go to sleep
Me: haha will do!
sis:lol ok



this is weird haha im too tired for this **** haha!!
sound good tho?
 

katatonia

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OamImrsNemo said:
Her:You wanna come out to eat with me my sister and her boy toy
Me: naw Im tired I had a busy day.
Her: are you sure you should think about it
Me: naw what you doin tom night?
Her: o im hangin out with one of my friends
Me: sweet well have fun
Her: so you comin?
Me: nope going to bed but you all have fun!
Hmm... was this a double date of some sort? Maybe you should've gone but I have no clue what your relationship with this girl is like.

You did alright but you shouldn't have said you were going bed, just that you were busy, then hung up if she pushed the issue. The point is to get her thinking that you might be with another girl.

OamImrsNemo said:
then her sister texts me like 20 mins later

Sis:you should really come
Me: Im trying to go to bed
sis: well i have to get up at 6 am
Me: well I had an extremely busy day and want to go to bed
sis: whatev go to sleep
Me: haha will do!
sis:lol ok
Good sign I guess. The girl you liked probably was going on about it to her sister and that is why she messaged you.

By the way there was no point responding to her message, you were meant to be asleep.
 

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Hmm... was this a double date of some sort? Maybe you should've gone but I have no clue what your relationship with this girl is like.
Double date- Probably but it was really spur of the moment they wanted me to go asap.

the relationship- Weve been seeing eachother for about a month. Weve fvked and everything but she gets really weird now...like 2 nights ago we saw a movie and I said she should stay the night and she made up some excuses why she couldnt. Its like she really wants to hang out with me kiss and cuddle but she's scared to stay the night or some ****? I dont know how to explain it I guess when were hangin out she wants to be as close to me as possible but only on her terms it seems and when were not she is totally out of the picture so I didnt wana hang out and Im trying to get the game back on my plate.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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