For those who have noticed my posts over the past few months, i m always the guy who says cut off all contact with your ex! you need a clean break and a fresh start!. I always argue that the faster you forget about the faster you can move on, which is the ultimate goal. So cut off all communications with her!
well, that conviction came in part from experience, as I also had to let go of a girl who I was deeply attracted to (i guess i can say i was in love with her, whatever that means). But i stuck to my guts ever since and have not contacted her or returned or messages/calls. What made it easier for me is also that i moved more than 1000 miles away from her...
Anyways, she has been desperately trying to talk to me, always drunk dialling late at night on weekends and txting me during the weekdays. Now, her best (girl) friend, who is a mutual friend, called me, basically telling me I should "do the mature thing" and call my ex. That s some more matrix bullshyt right there, trying to make me look bad for not talking to her. Then she tells me that my ex has been trying to contact me (obviously i know that...), that she is starting to have "mental problems" (i know that all too well!) and that she really worries about me. The last thing our friend said really shocked me: i m not calling her because i still love her!
The point of my post was to show a real life example to all those who i advise to cut contact with the ex's. You WILL move on. you WILL stop caring about her. your life will go on, and some day you ll hear that your ex was committed in a mental institution because her pre-existing disorders got out of control when she realized how good of a catch she let go. But by that time you ll be so indifferent to her problems that it won't even feel like revenge. or maybe just a little bit...
well, that conviction came in part from experience, as I also had to let go of a girl who I was deeply attracted to (i guess i can say i was in love with her, whatever that means). But i stuck to my guts ever since and have not contacted her or returned or messages/calls. What made it easier for me is also that i moved more than 1000 miles away from her...
Anyways, she has been desperately trying to talk to me, always drunk dialling late at night on weekends and txting me during the weekdays. Now, her best (girl) friend, who is a mutual friend, called me, basically telling me I should "do the mature thing" and call my ex. That s some more matrix bullshyt right there, trying to make me look bad for not talking to her. Then she tells me that my ex has been trying to contact me (obviously i know that...), that she is starting to have "mental problems" (i know that all too well!) and that she really worries about me. The last thing our friend said really shocked me: i m not calling her because i still love her!
The point of my post was to show a real life example to all those who i advise to cut contact with the ex's. You WILL move on. you WILL stop caring about her. your life will go on, and some day you ll hear that your ex was committed in a mental institution because her pre-existing disorders got out of control when she realized how good of a catch she let go. But by that time you ll be so indifferent to her problems that it won't even feel like revenge. or maybe just a little bit...