No Contact Wins. Now How Do I Bang This Girl

[CaConfused]

Some of you might remember the beginning of this story. Thanks to you, it looks like I might have given myself the option of pursuing. So help me figure this out guys!

In a nutshell -

Went on two dates with a girl. Made out both times. Made plans for a third date for a week later.

Texted back and forth, played Words with Friends. Then, a day before the third date, she flakes by saying her brother had a minor emergency and was going to stay with her all Thanksgiving. OK.

So next week I call about a date - tell her I want to see her before my Vegas trip. She asks when I leave (Friday). Then (conveniently?) says she has work events on Tues, Wed and Thurs.

I respond saying she has an amazingly busy schedule.

NO CONTACT BEGINS Tuesday of last week.

So yesterday (Monday) I get a random text from her "Are you back from Vegas?"

I have NOT responded yet. How do I bang this girl?

Thanks

 

[muscleman]

Just be careful not to over-analyze all of this to death. If I were you, here's what I'd do:

"Yea, I'm free X, Y, Z this week. Let's get together."

Give her a few options for the week. You're also giving yourself a hidden deadline. If she can't make it work this week, she's not interested enough. I talked about dealing with high interest level only before. That's not to say you won't be able to eventually bang her, but you'll be wasting a LOT of time before that happens.

Also, don't ask 'how do I bang this girl'. It's not something you can accomplish 100% of the time if you do A, B, and C. But yea, do the above and see how she responds. If she can't make it happen or flakes or cancels, move on.

 

[CaConfused]

Thanks Muscleman. If I go with that plan, when should I text her, given that she texted me last night at 7pm?

 

[Purefilth]

Edit - muscleman got there first

 

[CaConfused]

Ok done. I said this "Yes. Had a blast. I'm free Thurs and Saturday this week. Let's get together."

You guys haven't steered me wrong yet. Play by play to come.

 

[CaConfused]

Her reply "I've got a friend in from out of town. This seems impossible!"

WTF - why does she even text then?

 

[Fatal Jay]

Her reply "I've got a friend in from out of town. This seems impossible!"

WTF - why does she even text then?

She was seeing if she still had her leash on you

Drop this chick she is playing games and not interested

 

[CaConfused]

Should I go back to No contact? Or say something to call her out?

 

[NewAndImproved]

"Calling her out" never works.

Keeping quiet -- moving on for your own sake in this case, to see if she'll reach out in other cases -- always works.

As guys we need to stop always trying to "make things happen." A girl will rarely directly say no but take a hint at this point. As others have said, she's just not interested.

 

[NewAndImproved]

I also wouldn't have immediately gone for trying for another meetup. Instead I would have sent some high value statement about Vegas.

If I piqued her interest, she'd respond. If not, no ground lost.

Probably doesn't matter in this case, though!

 

[muscleman]

Her reply "I've got a friend in from out of town. This seems impossible!"

WTF - why does she even text then?

As suspected, low interest. Save yourself some time being pissed off and forget about her.

No need to respond.

The only way I'd let a girl see me after that (and a lot of guys won't even be this lenient) is if she told me 'hey I'm free tonight or tomorrow, want to get together?' Anything short of that, don't bother responding.

 

[Brosy]

What muscleman said + read the link he posted earlier.

A good quote I read the other day "have you guys forgotten what it's like when a girl is actually interested in you?".

E.g. Assuming friend from out of town is a female, you'd be invited over there to be shown off, just saying.

 

[Kbomb]

Go completely AFC on this girl imo. That way you blow it up big time and psychologically, it will be a big ego boost because you're actually in control of the AFC. To the point that it's absurd. That would turn things over in your head.

Do it.

 

[pdx1138]

Good Thread with the play by play.

I always move on if the counter offer is not made.

 

[Greasy Pig]

This is awesome, OP!
How good does it feel to be unplugged and enlightened? Now you're able to recognise low-interest/low-value women and you quickly, coldly and efficiently cull them from the herd.
Throw that smoke bomb, my friend, and disappear....she's proven herself unworthy of you and rather then being bad, it's actually good.

 

[CaConfused]

This is awesome, OP!
How good does it feel to be unplugged and enlightened? Now you're able to recognise low-interest/low-value women and you quickly, coldly and efficiently cull them from the herd.
Throw that smoke bomb, my friend, and disappear....she's proven herself unworthy of you and rather then being bad, it's actually good.

Awesome work guys. Thanks again. I'm about to ask another girl out on the second date.

Quick poll - do you text or call girls to ask out. I'm seeing more and more surprised at the call.

 

[VladPatton]

Yep, went through the same ṣhit myself. That's low interest and you gott let it go and NEXT her ass. Let her do some reaching out IF she had any interest.