No-contact, what happens when they come back?

[PapiChulo]

What if you go no-contact, lose weight, work on yourself etc...

Would the result be the same as staying in contact and doing the same things?

The result is diminished because they see you a lot until you reach a certain point where it is impossible not to notice. Some may realize that you are working out during the process. But if you go away and come back, it's like BAM in your face kinda thing and start thinking what happened and why they have not gotten with you when they had a a chance. I put a 20lbs of muscles in first 6 months of lifting and some people didnt even notice it at all because the change was gradual, and others who havent seen had a profound reaction - like staring kinda thing, or not recognizing me.

 

[The_411]

I think people are confusing going no contact with going dark, going underground, etc.

As ArcBound said no contact isn't a tool to get women or lure thme back in it's a tool to block out bad women or women who have that pull over you or get you into bad situations with their allure.

I use no contact on one person, my BPD/HPD ex.

Otherwise you go underground when you get rebuffed, rejected etc. Underground means you give no attention to that person and focus your attention of everything else as well as other potentials.

Ideally you'll be so emersed in other things that the one girl who rejected you is insignifcant in your grand scheme of things and give it little to no thought during the day.

Now if a girl disrespects you then use no contact because you're never ever going back there.

Otherwise if a girl rejects you in polite or reasonable fashion you move on the door isn't eternally closed but waiting hoping for it won't open it up. It's sort of like waiting to hit the lottery to live your life. That's a non-starter and you're doomed for failure. However, if you just live your life meet multiple women enjoy life there's a much greater possibility that the girl will come back again. Most of the time when they do you don't even give a bleep becuase you're in such a different head space that they're maybe only good for a hit it and quit it or FWB at best.

Going "no contact" to allure a girl that's not interested does nothing. It's like trying to divide 0, no matter what you try to divide by the answer is still zero.

Bottomline, you, me and everyone else in this thread have devoted too much energy already on something that is a waste. So many women out there why waste time on someone who doesn't value you.

 

[The_411]

How would you apply this mindset in a pragmatic way, for example, in the case of a girl that told you she was seeing someone else.

Well, you spin plates that way if a girl is seeing someone else you have other options in this particular case.

You also have to understand that if a guy always let up when a girl has someone else she's seeing we'd have basically 0 relationships because a) girls are rarely "single" for long and by single I mean open available and not having FWBs, booty calls, orbiters etc c-blocking you.