"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No contact makes you look butt hurt?

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jimmy18 said:
We dress well because we have high self-respect and want to look good for OURSELVES, not others.
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight !! ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dreama said:
Women in my experience would never do anything that puts them at the risk of rejection.

Just reject a woman and see what happens, they will go crazy.

I once rejected a woman, and she immediately pulled out her phone and started talking to her "imaginary" boyfriend. it was so funny.

Even if they remotely sense things are not going well , or she can't have you, their auto rejection will kick in and she will rationalize that YOU are not good enough for her. just so that she can be happy that SHE was the one rejecting you, not you rejecting her.
again stay on topic of no contact you keep changing topics. your talking about something different, but im going let it rest,
 

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jimmy18 said:
We dress well because we have high self-respect and want to look good for OURSELVES, not others.
Only partially correct.

We dress well in order to convey self-respect to the world in order to garner respect from others. How we present ourselves visually is directly proportional to how others perceive us and in turn behave toward us, men and women alike.

This is why men of power and influence dress in ways that convey this self-perception. Naturally we don't live in a social vacuum and in order to influence those within our sphere we show them who we are and what we think about ourselves by how we present ourselves. In turn this perception we paint by our clothing and grooming elicits the behavior we desire from the people we deal with.

This is a basic tenet of game, of business, and of the art of power and influence.
 

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Danger said:
Let's get this straight.


Going NC is NOT game playing. It is dropping someone out of your life who provides no value. You should not give two $hits what they think.


And I said before, women see it as you ignoring them and as an assault on their value. They don't see you as butthurt.

Remember, women are the top narcissists, everything is about THEM, not you. She will be focused first on "why is he ignoring me, I am young and beautiful and fabulous. Now he is making me feel terrible". Anything about YOU is an afterthought.

THIS is why such things are just another form of neg. Making her question herself. Most importantly though as others have pointed out, you DO care what others think, especially if you are responding because you don't want them to think badly of you.
As usual. Danger nailed it. If you care about the other's perception, they are still your jailer.

The power of NC is that it builds a man up internally and makes him realize and further internalize his own intrinsic value.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Only partially correct.

We dress well in order to convey self-respect to the world in order to garner respect from others. How we present ourselves visually is directly proportional to how others perceive us and in turn behave toward us, men and women alike.

This is why men of power and influence dress in ways that convey this self-perception. Naturally we don't live in a social vacuum and in order to influence those within our sphere we show them who we are and what we think about ourselves by how we present ourselves. In turn this perception we paint by our clothing and grooming elicits the behavior we desire from the people we deal with.

This is a basic tenet of game, of business, and of the art of power and influence.
Nailed it.

Guys you are missing a lot of great wisdom if you don't hang out with old people.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Danger said:
Let's get this straight.


Going NC is NOT game playing. It is dropping someone out of your life who provides no value. You should not give two $hits what they think.


And I said before, women see it as you ignoring them and as an assault on their value. They don't see you as butthurt.

Remember, women are the top narcissists, everything is about THEM, not you. She will be focused first on "why is he ignoring me, I am young and beautiful and fabulous. Now he is making me feel terrible". Anything about YOU is an afterthought.

THIS is why such things are just another form of neg. Making her question herself. Most importantly though as others have pointed out, you DO care what others think, especially if you are responding because you don't want them to think badly of you.
There is some great wisdom in this reply especially the bolded parts.

Giving value is a must if you want value back but when you keep giving value but you get nothing in return especially when it comes to dating then don't blame the girl but blame your beta self.
 

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What if you respond telling her to send some tittie pics or Gtfo, and then send a pic of you smirking? Have fun with it if you respond, act like a ****y a$$hole who doesnt care because you dont care.
 
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om1xr said:
Guys you are missing a lot of great wisdom if you don't hang out with old people.
Lol.
 

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From The Richest Man in Babylon:

"When youth comes to age for advice he receives the wisdom of years. But too often does youth think that age knows only the wisdom of days that are gone, and therefore profits not.

But remember this, the sun that shines today is the sun that shone when thy father was born, and will still be shining when thy last grandchild shall pass into the darkness.

'The thoughts of youth,' he continued, 'are bright lights that shine forth like the meteors that oft make brilliant the sky, but the wisdom of age is like the fixed stars that shine so unchanged that the sailor may depend upon them to steer his course."
 
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