"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No Contact Grapevine Question

Naughty Ninja

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Say you've implemented no contact, deleted your ex's or a person you've met facebook,Myspace, phone number etc. and disappeared completely. BUT the person and her friend are still in contact with your friends. How do you avoid your information, whereabouts, and goings on being found out through your friends? Do you not tell your friends anything if they ask what you've been up to lately in conversation to avoid it being sent through the grapevine? Or do you live your life to the fullest regardless and let them say what they will? Just a what if question. Thanks for reading.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Romjuan

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i was doing nc with my ex and was telling one of my friends, who was an acquantance with my ex, about how i was dating lots of girls. One drunk night he saw my ex and told her i was banging everything that was moving. That friend betrayed my trust and had no reason to talk about me.

My recomendation is do not tell them anything. Be a ghost. If you feel the need to tell them anything ASSUME it will get back to her because it most likely will.
 

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No contact works because she thinks you do not care about her and have completely forgotten.

If she knows you are overtly obsessing about her and too hard, it loses it's effect.

You should be talking to her friends, nothing wrong with that. The key is to talk about everything else and completely ignore the girl in conversation, as though she doesnt exist. If she is brought up then reply with the least amount of words and emotion.

Live your life to the fullest, obviously, and show everyone you are bette than ever. However when it comes to her name, act uninterested.
 

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It's your life, you live it to the fullest. As for nosy people, you control the amount of information you want out. Don't tell anyone more than what they need to know. Also, if they wanted to harm you in the first place, they will make up bs regardless of what you say.
 

DonJuanit0

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What does no contact has to do with information?!?

Mate, no contact= you live your life and you don't give a sh1t about her, about what she is up to and staff!

Why should you care if she finds out what are YOU doin?

Also, deleting her from myspace,fb,msn looks kinda desperate action to me! :/
No contact= DON'T CARE, why would you delete her? The point is that she thinks that YOU ARE there but not available for her, cause you have moved on and have OTHER things to do, rather than delete her or try to hide from her!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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