"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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No Contact Grapevine Question

Naughty Ninja

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Say you've implemented no contact, deleted your ex's or a person you've met facebook,Myspace, phone number etc. and disappeared completely. BUT the person and her friend are still in contact with your friends. How do you avoid your information, whereabouts, and goings on being found out through your friends? Do you not tell your friends anything if they ask what you've been up to lately in conversation to avoid it being sent through the grapevine? Or do you live your life to the fullest regardless and let them say what they will? Just a what if question. Thanks for reading.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i was doing nc with my ex and was telling one of my friends, who was an acquantance with my ex, about how i was dating lots of girls. One drunk night he saw my ex and told her i was banging everything that was moving. That friend betrayed my trust and had no reason to talk about me.

My recomendation is do not tell them anything. Be a ghost. If you feel the need to tell them anything ASSUME it will get back to her because it most likely will.
 

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No contact works because she thinks you do not care about her and have completely forgotten.

If she knows you are overtly obsessing about her and too hard, it loses it's effect.

You should be talking to her friends, nothing wrong with that. The key is to talk about everything else and completely ignore the girl in conversation, as though she doesnt exist. If she is brought up then reply with the least amount of words and emotion.

Live your life to the fullest, obviously, and show everyone you are bette than ever. However when it comes to her name, act uninterested.
 

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It's your life, you live it to the fullest. As for nosy people, you control the amount of information you want out. Don't tell anyone more than what they need to know. Also, if they wanted to harm you in the first place, they will make up bs regardless of what you say.
 

DonJuanit0

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What does no contact has to do with information?!?

Mate, no contact= you live your life and you don't give a sh1t about her, about what she is up to and staff!

Why should you care if she finds out what are YOU doin?

Also, deleting her from myspace,fb,msn looks kinda desperate action to me! :/
No contact= DON'T CARE, why would you delete her? The point is that she thinks that YOU ARE there but not available for her, cause you have moved on and have OTHER things to do, rather than delete her or try to hide from her!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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