Hey guys,
7 months ago I started dating a girl. We fell madly in love. We'd talk for hours and see each other several times a week. She took my virginity a few months in (I'm 25). She told me she loved me, I was best thing to ever happen to her, etc. She kept asking when I would propose. Eventually, she became more and more distant studying for MCAT. She eventually would go days without talking to me. She didn't act different when I saw her, which dwindled to once a week, so I was confused. I try reasoning with her but she says I was being too clingy and needy. Mind you, I talked to her maybe three or four times a week. I saw her maybe once a week at this point. We stopped having sex too.
She takes her MCAT and I don't see or talk to her for days afterwards. Fed up, I break up with her (I should've seen her. She is on summer break). We fight for a couple days about it, and I try to win her back and told her I made a mistake. She said we would stay broken up. She asked for her things back and to talk. She comes over crying, says she still loves me and wants to get back together eventually but not right away. She asks for space. She leaves her things at my house.
We go a month no contact. EDIT: During that time, she tells her brother we would work out as a couple if I quit being needy and if I contacted her, since I was the one who broke up with her.
I finally contact her and she says its best if we end things and refuses to talk to me or give me closure.
Side note: A mutual friend said she has been talking to a guy out of state and it seems they might date or be dating. It's only been a month since she's broken up and we were obviously serious.
Questions:
She's just rebounding, right?
Why didn't no contact work in this situation?
Is there a chance I could win her back (if I wanted to)?
What are your general thoughts?
What should I do?
7 months ago I started dating a girl. We fell madly in love. We'd talk for hours and see each other several times a week. She took my virginity a few months in (I'm 25). She told me she loved me, I was best thing to ever happen to her, etc. She kept asking when I would propose. Eventually, she became more and more distant studying for MCAT. She eventually would go days without talking to me. She didn't act different when I saw her, which dwindled to once a week, so I was confused. I try reasoning with her but she says I was being too clingy and needy. Mind you, I talked to her maybe three or four times a week. I saw her maybe once a week at this point. We stopped having sex too.
She takes her MCAT and I don't see or talk to her for days afterwards. Fed up, I break up with her (I should've seen her. She is on summer break). We fight for a couple days about it, and I try to win her back and told her I made a mistake. She said we would stay broken up. She asked for her things back and to talk. She comes over crying, says she still loves me and wants to get back together eventually but not right away. She asks for space. She leaves her things at my house.
We go a month no contact. EDIT: During that time, she tells her brother we would work out as a couple if I quit being needy and if I contacted her, since I was the one who broke up with her.
I finally contact her and she says its best if we end things and refuses to talk to me or give me closure.
Side note: A mutual friend said she has been talking to a guy out of state and it seems they might date or be dating. It's only been a month since she's broken up and we were obviously serious.
Questions:
She's just rebounding, right?
Why didn't no contact work in this situation?
Is there a chance I could win her back (if I wanted to)?
What are your general thoughts?
What should I do?
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