"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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franchise21

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hey, my parents will NOT get me a phone, they are old-fashioned...I have given every argument for it and nothign seema to budge them so i pretty much accepted that im not gonna have a cell until college... How does a true DJ handle this?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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well ok i understand where you're coming from...but is it really that necessary to have one?
 
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Any chance you can eventually get one without their help, or would they keep you from using it anyway ?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Some more information would be great! How old are you and what are the reasons your parents are not getting you a cell phone? (Is it too much money? Do your parents just not want you to be talking on the phone all day and money isn't the issue? All of the above?)

If money is the issue, get a job. Cell phones normally cost roughly about $30 a month, totaling to $360 a year. (On a 1 year contract.)
You can work for about a month and make that much money. I would wait till spring break, work throughout that time, than quit.

If it's just the fact that your parents don't want you having one and money isn't the issue, there honestly is not too much that you can debate about. If I was put under this situation, I would make a ****y+funny statement about it: "Oh, I don't have a cell phone. If I had one, I would have girls calling me non-stop!" ;) (And have a very sly smile was saying this.)
 

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my parents are like that too.
 

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ok some background...my parents don't know if they could pay for it...so i offered to pay half, their response was that i shouldn't be wasting my savings on that...also i don't think they want me on the phone all the time, they are kinda irritated when they talk to people and then their phone rings etc. stuff like that...i mean they are old fashioned...becasue they are old...i was born when my parents were 50...my mom has a cell but never uses it, i tried convincing her to just let me have it...but no...then i tried the whole "well you can add another phne to your plan" but no...so i mainly just become frustated, and give up...and to add to my frustrations is when a hot blone asks for my phone number and me going....i don't have a cell phone and her just being turned off
 

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I did have a job in the summer...I was a lifeguard and made about $1000 workign when i could around baseball season....
 

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A CELL PHONE IS STATUS SYBOL, IT EXUDES PRIZABILITY, LOOKS COOL IN THE DARK (I-phone rocks bigtime).

It's like a virtual wingman, so many advantages for using a cell phone as a pickup aid/prop. No more stubbling around for a pen and a scrap piece of paper, great opener......."hey check this out (insert youtube video, text funny, etc), keep track of all the women you meet, take pics or videos on the fly for social proof/ego boost, texting in a crowded place, great when you are lost. I could go on and on but you get the idea.

If you don't have a phone get used to being alone...........and ummm holding your bone. Seriously dude there are like cheap pay as you go phones for like 20 bucks and in 2008 tons of I-phone copy cats for under 200 bucks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It probly doesnt make a difference. I dont know. Id imagine theres advantages and disadvantages. I personally dont have 1. I dont think its that important to either.
 

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When I was your age, what ever age you are, I didn't need a cell phone. The only thing you can do is give everybody the house phone number. Your goal is to always have that phone ringing and keep the line tied up. When they (your parents) start complaining to you that you are always on the phone. Tell them that they wouldn't have this problem if you had your own cell.

You must also promise to be responsible about it and all the other things parents expect from their kids.
 
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I agree that owning a cellphone has sort of a peacock effect when you take it out, sparkling in the daylight.

No of course you don't need a cellphone... but it could be very useful because some b!tches are scared of calling your home phone. I dont have a cell and have had girls be like "I'm scared that someone else will pick up and I don't know them." The b!tch was afraid of talking to my dad haha.
Think... how stupid is that?
But don't get me wrong, having a cellphone is a very useful thing. Negotiate some arrangement with your parents, offer to do some extra work. Basically do whatever you must to get it "out of the kindness of your heart" and then get a shiny new cellphone :p
 

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HandyAndy said:
get a job and pay for your own.
took the words right outta my mouth

i dont carry a cell phone cause i just dont want something ringing all the time
 

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start going out more often.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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i just give people my home #
 

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I don't have a cell phone, although I need to get one for the summer.

Having a cell phone doesn't lead to that many problems especially since a girl cannot reach me whenever they want it adds to a bit of the mystery. I usually won't show up at my home/dorm phone for two or three days to check my messages.

It's not that big of a deal, but I am getting a plan right now (actually my friend is helping me because he knows someone) and I am getting a Razer ($35.00), 500 anytime minutes with unlimited nights and weekends, and 500 text messages with unlimited incoming texts for $45.00 a month. Which I can make in a weekend of work.

pisses off just about everyone, but makes them wonder where the hell I am and what kind of fun that I am having.

comic_relief
 

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Cellphones have a peacock effect? Maybe in the 80s they did, when only the richest men in the world had one. Now, everyone and their grandmother has a cellphone, and most of the "cool" phones are also the ones everyone have. There is NO peacock effect from having a cellphone. If anything, NOT having a cellphone makes you different and recognizable.

Besides, if you can't be reached at all times, it makes you more desirable.
 

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I'm not a big believer in cellphones...the only reasons I see for having one are if:
1. your car breaks down
2. you get lost

I didn't get a cell until I went to college and it didn't negatively affect me in any way.

How old are you? And why do you want a cell? Don't you think time spent talking to people on the phone would be better spent in person?
 

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Cell phone would be one of the biggest keys to my dj skills.It saves time as COD said no more stumbling for pen & paper,just whip out ya phone and chuck there number in,Also its kinda a good conversation starter lol.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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