"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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612_Da_Playa

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I want to summarize what Viper said because I am having the same problem. At lunch I would want to walk around but I'm too afraid because of how others would view me. I tend to be kinda quiet in class and I make an excuse for that by saying that I'm laid back.:down: I'm just waaay to self-conscious. How do I get rid of that attitude?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Veyron

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if you have a lunch period like i do in which the class is split in 2 parts because of it try to make friends in that class and eat with them at lunch.join a sport to get rid of the self-conscious attitude,like wrestling.
 

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i'm no dj but i would say forget everyones opinions and talk.. thats what any dj will say, you cant get anywhere in life without taking chances and that is true in everything even with girls
 

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First, you need to start with the root of the problem.

What is it about you that is making you feel insecure? Obviously there has to be something (most likely physically?) about you that you are feeling insecure about that is causing you to feel this way.

Care to elaborate?
 
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