"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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No BS involved...but now what?

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Well, here I am minding my own business with my buds on St patty's, when this 9HB is one whom has come to hang out with our group as a friend of a friend, long story short, we ended up at another bar with only 2 of the peeps we started with. she asks me to go back with her to her place, we leave that bar, and end up at outside her house, we never made it inside, thigns went "really" well, and we had alot of fun in my car that night. now...heres my cooinkidink, shes cool as hell, is well educated, funny, a bit ****y, and just the type of girl I really go after, I havent talked to her much since that night, once only. I know were going to hang out again, which is fine, but hwo should I go about this situation now? Im just not sure how to act when I see her again, u know? i mean we obviously hit it off, but I dont want to mess that up. shes a really busy person, so i probably wont see her that much anyways, I just dont wanna screw things up, u know?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alright so you were invited to her house but didnt go in? Why? you bang in the car or something?

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Originally posted by SoreLoser67
we leave that bar, and end up at outside her house, we never made it inside, thigns went "really" well, and we had alot of fun in my car that night.
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So, no We didnt literally go the whole 10 yards, but did pretty much everything else. after which point in my car, she just said, let me give u my number, and just call me soon (basically, we both were into eachother, but didnt want things to move "that" fast, so we stopped) and said a nice goodnight, nothing bad at all.
 
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Honestly I don't see what kind of problem you have on here. "Be cool" is my advice :).
 
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Yeah you shouldn't be thinking theirs a problem here, thats for sure.

I would call her before you hang out with your boys though.

If you got a BJ in the car which is what I'm thinking, take her out to dinner or something as a small reward. Get to know her personally so you know what your working with.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Relax and feel her out. If you trust your "gut" she will on some level help you out. If she is being laid back, then you lay back. If she is more aggressive, well you get it. Trust how you feel, your first instincts are never wrong its that second voice that is usually the problem.
 
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