"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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No 2nd date?

guitaronfire411

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OK, getting some ******** here.

I had a great date with a girl, we touched each other up, got a kiss, etc.

Date was really long -- 2PM to 9PMish. I had a lot of fun. Girl is 5'10, I'm 5'6ish.

Girl was the first to say that she had a great time over txt. She hinted at meeting up again for hugs/cuddles. (yes, exactly that)

Next day, I said I had a great time. She replied back fast and said she was glad about it.

She had plans to visit her best female friend over the weekend. Fast forward to yesterday.... I ask her out for next weekend, which is the only time she is available.

Her reply?

"Probably not... I have to help my mom gardening."

WTF? Seriously B.S. excuse.

I said it was cool and no problem. I repeated that I had a great time on our first date but I understand that family is important so no worries.


She then agreed with me.... that SHE had a great time too. NO COUNTEROFFER, NOTHING.

I wished her a good night and logged off of MSN and she returned the pleasantries. (she hates the phone)

Tonight, I was online and so was she.... and we didn't talk.

Should I just leave her alone, write her off completely, or ask her out next weekend in a last attempt?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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She's not into you. When girls talk about what a good time they have and then make no effort to have "a good time" again and reject your proposals, they aren't interested.
 

playerone

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I don't think the height matters that much. It's how you make her feel, getting her emotions to run wild. Take it as a sign that her interest level is low. Don't bother contacting her for a few days, then casually text her. Give her 1 last chance. If she still doesn't show interest, don't waste your time on her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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guitaronfire411

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Interesting. I think the whole PUA community underestimates the power of walking away. I've personally used this wild-card and got successful results multiple times now. Here's what I did and I hope it helps some of you guys:

Yesterday Text @ 1:55PM -> Amazon Girl:
Hey I'm not looking for just friends so I'm removing numbers off my cell but I wish you all the best in your search! -GoF411

Yesterday Text @ 4:54PM <- Amazon Girl:
Umm ok

Yesterday Text @ 1:01AM -> Amazon Girl: (yeah... right before I got some zzz's)
I wanted to say be4 that our date was the most memorable one I've ever been on and I thought we had good enough chemistry for a 2nd one. Bye

Today Text @ 8:49AM <- Amazon Girl:
I would have gone on a second one with u

Except I asked her out multiple times and she was always busy before the walk-away.
 

Hughman

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Look at what you described - she saw her best friend. I'd best all my savings they talked about you. The friend probably either a)didn't 'like the sound of you' or b)she hinted to your friend that she was being slvtty. Either way, she probably helped to turn your date against you.

You gave into her 'demand' of not using the phone. Balls to that, should have called her.

And since she never counter-offered, you should have given her one last chance, just in case it was a reason. After that, you drop the number, delete the msn contact and move on if you can. Not multiple times and looking like a weak needy chump.

Your last post showed you had emotional attachment to her, and you showed it to her. You don't tell them you are dropping them. It gives you a small chance that they may contact you and ask where you got to.
 
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