"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NLP reading / books

MacAvoy

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Anybody have any good books that they recommend reading on NLP? I tried doing a search on the site for LNP but I got an erro cuz its not a 4 letter word.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dunno about NLP - im concentratring on Positive thinking/affirmations/visualisations/hypnosis at the moment tho.

I recommend:

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway - Susan Jeffers

Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz

Excellent reads!

What do you wanna use NLP for anyway? Women/confidence/other?
 
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