Nismo or Zinc any advice?

[TheWolfMan]

Okay sorry for the novel, been talking to this girl for awhile, met her at a bar and she actually approached ME, we ended up making out later on that night.Anyway I hit her up to hang out, says she's busy during the weekends and that she does DO stuff during the week. I hit her up on a Wednesday and we end up grabbing drinks, everything's going good and I'm flirting/teasing her and getting serious indicators of Interest: she's not checking her phone, not breaking eye contact, and fiddling with her hair. I end up kiss closing but we both had to work in the morning and she didn't invite me in so we parted ways.





Been talking to her since trying to hang out again, but she either already has plans or she has to work, works 2 jobs. Anyway I hit her up wednesday to hang out again and she said she was having a friend from home come up but we could do it sometime next week I said okay fine no worries. She ends up getting drunk and says she "wants to hang out" then says "sorry i'm drunk Idk I like chatting and I normally avoid the date type situations but I feel like it's a yes to you" anyway i played it off and teased her the next day (Yesterday). She texted me later on and told me to come to the bar she was working at ( she's a promo girl, goes around to different bars and liquor stores). This place is kinda far, and I had to work today so I told her if it was closer i'd be there but that I'm probably going to grab a couple beers around here with my buddies.





My question is this should I hit her up today and ask if she's available at all this weekend or should I give it a rest and wait a while especially since it would be the third day in a row I tried to make plans. I just wanted to capitalize on the fact that she was hot to trot when she hit me up drunk lol. I have been playing it cool, only texting to set up dates and what not, not texting her everyday. Haven't added her on Facebook or anything yet, i figured if she wants to be friends she can make that move. I was thinking of sending her something like "Hey Ms. Popular, you all booked up this weekend or no lol?" On the other hand I could just let it go and let her come to me. I figured at this point is she really wanted to hang she would make the time, am I right?

 

[TheWolfMan]

Pretty much my question is to be agressive now that she showed me some of her cards, or should I back off and wait for more cards to be dealt?

 

[Skyline]

It's fine to write 12 paragraphs but it's not okay to make it hard to read.

 

[TheWolfMan]

I also don't want to be the idiot that takes the "I only hangout with him during the Week when I'm bored" status over the dude that gets the "I F him on the weekends, because he treats me like crap and wont hang out during the week" status.

 

[VikingKing]

You need to let her come to you, and she will if her level of interest is high. If she calls you to go out on the weekend do it.

But if you don't hear from her till monday, idk man.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

It's fine to write 12 paragraphs but it's not okay to make it hard to read.

Agreed, however I wouldn't sweat it, as this question/post was only directd to two people on these boards. None of us are qualified enough to answer a basic, every day type of scenario like this one.

 

[zinc4]

hahaha....not sure if i am qualified to be called out for advice like this...but IMO whatever you do, never send a message like this: "Hey Ms. Popular, you all booked up this weekend or no lol?" that's the type of message she should be sending you......it reeks of you projecting lower value than her...

Considering she asked you last time, i would send a text saying you are going to be at such and such bar this weekend with your friends and she is welcome to stop by...if she rejects with no counter,than just forget about her and meet other chicks unless she puts herself on a silver platter for ya asking you to please go to such and such to see her....but that's just me, I am pretty aggressive and drop them quickly if they aren't receptive to it... i'm sure others will say let her come to you and i can't say i would disagree with that as well....just do what you feel like and don't over think it...there are plenty more girls to meet....

Also, i would have pushed for the lay when you kissed closed..both working tomorrow? that shouldn't matter much if her IL is high...

 

[nismo-4]

You heard from zinc, now for Judge nismo. I think your princess is in another castle.

You need to go ghost on her for a while. You're chasing her. And when you do see her, seal the deal (get the lay!) And don't send that text. Just...don't. Unless you wanna show low value, go right ahead. Women love value, so don't hurt yourself.

If a woman wants to see you, she'll move a mountain to see you. Women make time for who they want to see. Do you think this woman would always be busy if Brad Pitt asked her out? Hell no!

And if you're getting mixed signals, it means low to no interest. If a woman is giving you the runaround or confusing you, assume she ain't interested and move on. She probably did and wanted you to anyway. :rock:

Are you spinning more plates? Regardless, stop worrying about this girl. The very fact that you are worrying shows how high of a pedestal you have her on. And she knows it. So stop chasing her and grow your options.

Case closed.

 

[BeDJ]

You used your lifeline to call nismo or zinc? I'm sure mny members cn offer advice for you. Let me break this situation down. I'm on my 10th shot so please forgive the typos and grammar.

When she approached you, that means that you were soemone that she felt like fvcking. All you had to do was play the cards right and you would have ened up fvcking her. Kiss closing does not seal the fvcking deal. Get it out of your head. Kisses do not mean sh!t.

Promo girl? Translation- I have all the c0cks waiting by my side. The text that you sent was weak. Cringe worthy. These women have all the options presebt to them and I would not be surprised if she send that first text our of her own agenda.

You are dealing with a women whose job is to get guys to like her and the product that she support. You guys have kissed, probably not her first rodeo cowboy. It meant nothing to her and sure as hell should mean nothing to you. This is all speculation, but please tell me I am wrong. You gave her everything she wanted. The makoiut session does not mean sh!t to her because the next day, she can do it with a random guy. I hope you are followinfg.

Its a simple case of you falling for a woman that has multiple options. Does that mean she will choose you?? maybe, you don't know

Gather a few more options and this chick will be a thing of the past

 

[TheWolfMan]

Haha yeah sorry guys not sure why I called those two out, figured that would get my post noticed though. Going to take everyone's advice, she's definitely in a another castle as nismo would say.

 

[TheWolfMan]

I mean i've gone after another plate as well as this one, but it's pretty much dead in the water, I should have pushed more for the lay when we first hung out. Oh well, live and learn. It's not like she's confusing, she seems "interested" usually offers a tentative counter-offer, but she seems real busy all the time and I'm tired of using that to justify her lack of interest. Like you said if I was getting her wet she'd move mountains to make it happen.