"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nicest / Easiest Way to Get Rid of a Girl YOU DON'T WANT

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Last night, some girl was hitting on me at a party, and I didn't want her. It was something about the way she talked that reeked of desperation.

But I believe in treating all girls politely, no matter if they're complete stuck-up *****es or insecure little babies. So here's what I did:

She asked me if my friend was normally in a bad mood, and I respond:

"No, but I am."

After that, her interest for me cooled off fast - and trust me, I was HAPPY about it!

NEG yourself. It's the easiest way to lose an unwanted girl. It makes way more sense than the other method of "showing too much interest" etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mind_Body_Soul

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Yea negging yourself might work on some girls, but if the girl really is desperate, it isn't going to have any effect.

If you wanna get rid of a girl, just say "I don't think we should see each other anymore". Be a MAN.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Tell her that you don't feel the chemistry. ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
How about the truth? That usually seems to work.
Haha well for me, the truth never seems to work. You tell a girl you don't like her and that she should stop talking to you, she just wants to talk to you more.
 

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Rock_Solid said:
Haha well for me, the truth never seems to work. You tell a girl you don't like her and that she should stop talking to you, she just wants to talk to you more.
You just have to say it until it sinks in.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Tell her that you don't feel the chemistry. ;)
errr... what would you say to a girl you just met like 2 seconds ago? like you know from reliable sources that she's ... not normal but you don't wanna be mean/assh*le because there's other girls you want to meet at the party or something. Do you say something along the lines of "I'm kind of seeing someone, but we can still be friends or thanks but I'm not interested"?
 

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Two lines that always worked for me to get rid of unwanted guys (or girls) are:

"Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal saviour?"

"Can I borrow $75.00? My checking acount is over drawn."

They usually turn and run like race horses.
 
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What is the easiest Way to Get Rid of a Girl YOU DON'T WANT
Kill her and throw her body in the river!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Last Man Standing said:
Kill her and throw her body in the river!!!
Now, now! Murder is very naughty!:nono: Just because YOU don't want her doesn't mean some other jolly fellow won't find her delightful. Perhaps you could point out this unsuspecting man to the girl and say :"He thinks you're hot!" With any luck she'll scamper away and leave you in peace.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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CCKazi007 said:
errr... what would you say to a girl you just met like 2 seconds ago? like you know from reliable sources that she's ... not normal but you don't wanna be mean/assh*le because there's other girls you want to meet at the party or something. Do you say something along the lines of "I'm kind of seeing someone, but we can still be friends or thanks but I'm not interested"?
You mean she has in that short amount of time (two seconds right?) has determined that you are the man of her life, her soulmate, the man that she will marry, the father of her children, the payer of her mortgage, the one that takes out the garbage, the one that files her taxes, the one that will eventually get bored with her in bed, the one she will catch cheating with her best friend, the one she will sue for child custody during the divorce?
 

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stereotypical gay hand gestures
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"Have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal saviour?"
Coming from me, they'd probably be rolling on the floor laughing, and their interest would increase exponentially.

Asking to borrow money's a good one. Several ways to win there.

"I'm looking for a relationship."
Remember, we're talking about getting rid of an obsessed woman here. Something along the lines of "Do you like threesomes?" would probably work much better.
 

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
Here's a better one: "Do you like group 'parties'?"
Prefaced with: "Your best friend is hot, don'cha think???"
 

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
Here's a better one: "Do you like group 'parties'?"
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Prefaced with: "Your best friend is hot, don'cha think???"
2 hit combo!

:up: bonus points scored! :up:
 

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Originally from: ??? "Your best friend is hot, don'cha think???"
Best answer here! She clearly knows here that you're not interested in her! Also, you could just do the ignoring thing, (i.e don't ask for her number, don't call her if you she gave it to you, make excuses/etc, but you could end up hurting her feelings this way!)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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