Nice vs Ugly Breakups

[Mafia80]

What do you guys think?

Is it better to end a relationship on good note or better to go out with a bang telling them to go to hell and what you really think of them.

If it ends on a good note, problem is its harder to get over the relationship cuz you remember them in a good way. I would guess that a lot of couples that break up on good terms end up returning to each other.

If it is ugly, you probably wont look back to much since both sides will despise the other.

 

[MindOverMatter]

My 2c.

I end every relationship on a good note, and stay friends with the girl. I'm friends with almost every girl I've dated, and I keep in touch with all of them. I've even hooked one up with a buddy of mine.

The result? I've had tons of post relationship booty calls, some of them happening while the girl was in another relationship. I've had exes introduce me to their friends and offer to set me up with them, etc.

Ending things on a good note gives you a lot of bonuses if you are good at it. Unless she did something really bad like cheat on you, I don't see the point of burning a bridge and calling her names.

If it ends on a good note, problem is its harder to get over the relationship cuz you remember them in a good way. I would guess that a lot of couples that break up on good terms end up returning to each other.

That's true if you stay single after the breakup. If you start dating right away, you'll be fine and will think of them as just a friend. While I did hook up with exes, I'd never return to being in a relationship with any of them.

 

[quest]

i broke up with my ex on nice terms.7 months later, she is still obsessed with me.

i wish i f*cked her sister/best friend or something, and made her REALLY hate me.

 

[becker]

The only relationship I've had that I've ended on a good note is my last one. Every one before that I've never spoken to the girl again. I'm a believer that things should end badly, and it's only a very small if any number, of relationships that should end with the two people being friends.

If you both find someone else that's better for you than you were for each other, then yes, it's very easy to be friends. However, be wary that sometimes you expect to be friends, but the girl has a tough time with it, and will not be so open to it. This is my last relationship. To me, she was worth being friends with, but at the same time, it was more her ending things than me. I was pretty happy with her, so I would have been cool keeping things the way they were.

Incompatibility and realizing you aren't compatible is probably the most likely situation where being friends after being in a relationship is possible.

 

[aftershock]

I'd say end on a good note, because it's a small world. If you break up with her bad, then it's not just her whos going to hate you, it's her friends, parents, sisters, brothers, Samaritans helpline etc who hate you as well. And the less people that hate you in this world, the better.

 

[becker]

Sometimes breaking up on good terms is not an option. Reason being that if you still like her in any way, you're just going to be pining for her while trying to be friends with her.

Imagine if you parted amicably with a girl. You will likely still have some residual feelings for her, and if you see her now going out with some other guy, you're going to be upset.

This is why a good breakup is only possible in very narrow circumstances. You have to both not like each other anymore and be completely over the relationship to the point where you are both not interested in rekindling any flames between you two.

 

[lebRambo]

my last relationship ended well. We still see each other from time to time. still catch up, that sort of thing. Always better to end well, in my opinion. Plus her dad was pretty high up in the police, so i wouldn't wanna get on his bad side.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

I break up on "absolute terms". I cut off all contact, refuse to see her, but I don't do anything to make her hate me.

 

[Reyaj]

I just broke up with my girlfriend and unfortunately it was a bad break up.

What Becker says is very true, if there are strong feelings involved on either side, breaking up on good terms is very unlikely.

 

[h a r d a s s]

i've always broken up on good terms and i think ALL my ex's still want me bk... i wouldn't mind it if it was just like "Oh i can get that whenever i want it now" but if your still in school, some *****es will try to do everything to make sure you dont hit it off with another girl... my last g/f has been driving me crazy for like 6 months with all her drama bull****