I've been lurking on sosuave for about a month and reading the DJ Bible religiously. I've snapped out of my AFC/Nice Guy mindset, but I still have a bit of a prob.
Background: I'm an HS senior with limited (one GF, but we dated for 9 mos) experience, though I got the nerve to ask a seriously hot sophomore I know through debate to prom.
"Some problem," you say. Well, the tricky part is two-fold.
A. The day after I asked her, she said that, although her parents (who are muy over protective) were okay, she "thought we should go as friends." Maybe I should have nexted her, but I didn't (because I get a slight sense that she may have a rather higher IL than her parents might allow her to show).
B. I'm feeling awkward in the day to day run up to prom. W/ my last gf (who was also a sophomore prom date, although I was a junior at the time), there was little awkwardness since we were both in journalism together and were both very AFC in our attitudes towards each other--whereas w/ this girl I only see her in the hallways intermittently, although we do say "Hi!" and I pick up some pretty strong IOIs from her. I'm sort of fearing an awkward prom night dinner of uncomfortable silence. So, my question is ...
1. How should I be acting in the run up to prom...increase contact or not?
and
2. How can I fill in those uncomfortable gaps (I'm a great conversationalist when I have something to talk about...I just don't know what to talk about).
Any advice will be greatly appreciated by this rAFC.
Background: I'm an HS senior with limited (one GF, but we dated for 9 mos) experience, though I got the nerve to ask a seriously hot sophomore I know through debate to prom.
"Some problem," you say. Well, the tricky part is two-fold.
A. The day after I asked her, she said that, although her parents (who are muy over protective) were okay, she "thought we should go as friends." Maybe I should have nexted her, but I didn't (because I get a slight sense that she may have a rather higher IL than her parents might allow her to show).
B. I'm feeling awkward in the day to day run up to prom. W/ my last gf (who was also a sophomore prom date, although I was a junior at the time), there was little awkwardness since we were both in journalism together and were both very AFC in our attitudes towards each other--whereas w/ this girl I only see her in the hallways intermittently, although we do say "Hi!" and I pick up some pretty strong IOIs from her. I'm sort of fearing an awkward prom night dinner of uncomfortable silence. So, my question is ...
1. How should I be acting in the run up to prom...increase contact or not?
and
2. How can I fill in those uncomfortable gaps (I'm a great conversationalist when I have something to talk about...I just don't know what to talk about).
Any advice will be greatly appreciated by this rAFC.