"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nice Places to Hang Out

CosMoenTropic

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Just met a girl. Small get to know each other dinner, no big deal, but then what? Honestly I dont know how I feel about this girl yet, but I don't want to seem boring. I am a total AFC in the formal dating department.. what to do.. etc ..

What are some good suggestions for nice places to hang out and relax after wards?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Metaphysical

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depends how old you guys are and what your interests are.

i like meeting girls up for coffee first date because it's cheap and also i can make it last only 10 mins if i dont like her. just sip my coffee and get out.

i dont like dinner either cause many girls feel fat eating in front of a guy they like and just met.

i am into dating older women so i go to art galleries, museums, expositions, festivals, wine country, things like that.

but im also into mountain biking, salsa dancing, beach volleyball, swimming, cannoeing.. so i take them with me when i do those kind of things

just find your hobbies and do whatever.. u can only go on dinners/movies so many times before u get bored
 

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second year university students. Metaphysical-- I know what you mean about hobby activities, but I honestly don't know her interests. Or does that even matter that much as long as I am passionate about it? I really don't know
 

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2nd year university. If she's up for it mini golf, go karting, any sports you guys play, volunteer at a local shelter, arcade with old school games, coffee, snacks at a local hole in the wall (snacks, not dinner or lunch) or a candy shop, fairs, farmer's market... all of these are fun and fairly inexpensive too. If any of these mini dates work out well, you can always add on more mini dates to "extend" your day. Just don't hang out too long and end early enough to keep her wanting
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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