Nice Guys Summed Up Nicely (no pun inteneded)

[Young Juan]

http://www.heartless-*****es.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

This is an article that pretty much sums up the issues of an AFC from a woman's point of view. Just a quick quote:

"What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date"."

There's little advice in the article but lots of insight.

 

[jglide123]

That's true. So-called "nice guys" typically try way too hard with women, which stems from insecurity.

There's nothing wrong with being a nice person, but you MUST have balance in your life. Never put a woman on a pedestal, and always value yourself as a man.

 

[jglide123]

That's true. So-called "nice guys" typically try way too hard with women, which stems from insecurity.

There's nothing wrong with being a nice person, but you MUST have balance in your life. Never put a woman on a pedestal, and always value yourself as a man.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Those so called nice guys are actually more responsbile for spoiled damaged women 10 times more than jerks, starting from a "nice guy" father through a line of "nice guys" friend any average girl develop her entitlmente attitude and oversize ego.
They never say no and take any sh1t till the girl learn she has no rule to respect or conseguences to fear for bad behaviour.
That kind of guys really deserve what it comes to them.

A jerk can break her heart but at least doesnt create a monster of ego that no one can handle properly till the monster collapse on itself.

 

[Eternal_water]

Those so called nice guys are actually more responsbile for spoiled damaged women 10 times more than jerks, starting from a "nice guy" father through a line of "nice guys" friend any average girl develop her entitlmente attitude and oversize ego.
They never say no and take any sh1t till the girl learn she has no rule to respect or conseguences to fear for bad behaviour.
That kind of guys really deserve what it comes to them.

A jerk can break her heart but at least doesnt create a monster of ego that no one can handle properly till the monster collapse on itself.

I've never even thought about it like that, but I can instantly see your right.

The problem is I read all the stuff on this website and feel emboldened and think, the next girl I see I will simply strike up a conversation with her and see how it goes.

The instant I actually see one the crippling insecurity kicks right back into action.

 

[bigneil]

Eternal_water you just need more practice to go with the theory. It's like that with any skill. Read a book on how to play guitar and then try to play one!